Seeking other’s approval? Why?

Embrace your “self” ‘coz oneness is the secret of everything 

Have you ever observed that we’re looking for other’s approval now and then? I’m very sure you did. We all become more or less a philosopher in anxiety.

In recent past I became aware of feeling anxious much of the time. I was in that state for a while. And I took it as an opportunity to reflect on my anxiety. Lets the philosopher out of me.

I’ve found myself to become more and more self-conscious around others. Judging myself — continously.Seeking other’s approval. Constantly putting pressure on myself to say the right thing and do the right thing. I was seeking validation of my own thoughts from others. I wanted to fit in.

We all want to fit in — in the peer group, in society, into the stereotypes. Nobody want to be alone — typecasted.

Fitting in brings sense of security.

But this approval seeking is only a real problem if we feel as though positive approval from others is the very oxygen that keeps us alive. The feeling of rejection is devastating sometimes.The reliance to aproval seeking leave us open to abuse — makes us vulnerable.

It’s self-abusive.

The desire to get people to like us cut short our choices and actions. Our “self” melt away.

The new borns take them as a part of everything — they ain’t be seperated.Have a sense of oneness with the natural world — with every thing around them.

We each have a “self” but may be we didn’t born with one.

With times we lost our infancy and our sense of oneness too. Now we think ourselves as an individual-self. Who wants to fit in to survive. May be our thought is right but the path we choose has down-side effect. ‘Coz we’ve lost the opportunities where the potential for reward was high as well as the heaviness of criticism too. Some lost opportunies to grow.

We’ve misunderstood the whole notion of self. With age our self-ness supersede the sense of oneness. We think so much about others perception that we forget to communicate with ourselves before them.

If there is no balance in our inner world, there will be none in our outer world, for harmony always begins within.

Express your “self” .Unleash yourself through whatever way your “self” likes. Find your long lost oneness.

The Sun isn’t burning inside to lighten up you and me, but for itself — to produce tremendous energy. ‘Coz Sun is meant for that. It’s the different thing that we make that energy useful for us. Everything depends on perception.

Don’t waste yourself in seeking other’s approval. We all are precious resources of the nature. We are ONE.

“If your self-worth is gained from others, you will forever need approval, when in reality all you need is to trust yourself and to hear your own voice.”