This isn’t 'just' another story of the deep sense of loss we feel when we lose a fur-baby, it is a story about how teo people who were not meant to be married to each other were still connected deeply through their shared love for another.
I commend all four of you. You, your wife, your ex and her husband are mature people who recognize that attachments are profound and sometimes inexplicable, but that doesn’t mean we should dismiss them.
I believe that the animals we love in our lives sometimes have the ability to make us better people. Maybe through the act of playtime or snuggle time with a nonhuman that offers us the opportunity for self reflection that we don’t really have with our spouse, we learn more about ourselves.
Thank you for sharing this story, we lost our Kuma four years ago. It still hurts but we share the loss and it binds us closer. We are starting to prepare ourselves for our next loss. Before we got Kuma we discussed the pain we knew would come when we lost him. We were completely unprepared for how consuming the loss would be and how long it would take to heal. With our little Teo, we talk about it. We know it is coming. We are working the grief before it happens. Will that make it easier? Probably not. What I do know though, is that sharing the pain, the consuming grief has brought us closer together as a couple. It is a tie that binds us, perhaps similar in some ways to strangers who share a tragedy. Oftentimes, the tragedy creates a relationship that offers an outlet for the sadness and the shared loss that is uniquely understood by those who have survived it together.
In this way maybe our love for our animals makes us a little more human.