Agreed, and I do think it’s a message that needs to be made more clear and spread more often. The idea that masculinity requires any one thing, such as hyperactivity when it comes to sex, or even the desire to have sex at all, is incredibly damaging to both men and women.

I’m not sure what the best approach is to handling this, because it’s complex and it isn’t rooted in one practice. You’re right, it should only occur when one desires it, not due to pressures from society, significant others, friends, or dates. It’s hard enough to tell ourselves that sometimes, it’s even harder to tell those who apply the pressure. Solving that issue isn’t easy by any means, but it’s so crucial.