Forgiveness is the Key to Happiness

Yare
Yare
Nov 8 · 2 min read

Someone once told me I’m too hard on myself. That I take things too seriously and this limits my happiness. I put it into perspective; when we think about forgiveness, it’s usually in the form of us asking for it. But have we ever given ourselves the same opportunity?

“Stuck in traffic with no place to go”

We are quick blame either ourselves or others for our misfortunes, dwelling on how things “could’ve been” and what we’d change given a second chance. But we forget, every morning we open our eyes is another opportunity at life and a chance to make better decisions. It’s easy to get caught up in the moment and let it drag you down.

Having grown up in a strict household, there were extreme consequences for my misbehaviours. This meant I was always asking for forgiveness in the hopes of being spared some type of mercy. It either makes or breaks you and affects your personality more than you can imagine. I noticed as I grew older, I was my own biggest critic. It was hard not to judge myself because that’s the main type of attention I ever got. Over time it ruins you because you’re unappreciative of your good traits and too focused on what you did wrong. Its detrimental to your success and happiness as you dwell on the negative that haunts you like a dark cloud.

The future is bright and life is beautiful

I recently had a conversation with my mother, whom I barely have personal talks with, and she told me something that allowed me to have some peace in my heart. That convo made me realize, even though she had been through so much in life, she was always forgiving and didn’t dwell on what went wrong. She didn’t let the struggles stop her from being happy. I decided to forgive my past, those that did me wrong, and my own expectations that I failed to meet. It felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders and I could finally breathe again.

Everything in life happens for a reason and teaches us lessons we can’t learn in a classroom. I’ve since made peace with my past and look to the future with nothing but happiness and hope.

Yare

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22 and here to inspire you🙏🏾. I’ve experienced a lot, maybe you can relate.

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