Sex Is The Icing On The Cake….
. Hey my ❤️’s, so I was watching an episode of “The Real” the other night and the topic of girl chat was sex. Now let first say I love me some girl chat because these ladies are beyond open and honest. As each of them gave their opinion Tamera said something that really stood out to me. She said, “Sex is the icing on the cake and that when you take sex off the table you truly get to know a person for who they are”. She also said that’s how you know if the relationship will actually go somewhere. Then the ladies went on to discuss celibacy and the importance of seriously dating someone without having sex.
. Watching that really made me think about my own life. And I realized that at 25 years old I’ve never been on a real date. By real date I mean someone deciding to pick a place and tell me be ready and we go enjoy ourselves. I’ve never experienced that or casually dating someone. This and other things helped make my decision to be celibate a lot easier because I feel that and I know that I want to be in a committed relationship one day, have children and get married eventually. And as the old saying goes “ why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free”. I strongly agree with that statement because I feel we live in a generation where guys aren’t forced to work for anything they want. Us as young women give into them very easily.
. So for me as I continue to grow and make various changes in my life I decided to that I have to teach people how to treat me. And a huge part of that is setting boundaries and setting the standard of what I do and don’t want for my life. In practicing celibacy I’m able to see guys for who they are and what they aren’t. I’m able to fall deeper in love with myself and focus on me with no distractions that aren’t beneficial to my growth. I’ve decided that until I’m dating someone seriously and it’s leading to a solid relationship sex is off the table.
. My message to young women would be that you have to teach people how to treat you. Also that you have the right and power to say no to anything you don’t feel comfortable with. Most importantly, the story you write about and display to the world is all that matters don’t feel bad for standing your ground on anything. And when it comes to sex understand that it is Your Body, therefore you should make someone earn that part of you by getting to truly know you with your clothes on. After all, sex is the icing on the cake
. XOXO, Kyana M.
