Top Five Reasons Why Girls Swipe Left

I started Up Your Tinder Game because I know that there are more great guys out there than there are great profiles. I want phone app dating to work for these guys. I want all the girls I know who are frustrated with dating apps to find these guys. I want all the great guys who are suffering from a lack of matches because their pictures or bios don’t do them justice to present the best possible version of themselves. Because I truly believe that dating apps can help you find someone special, and that the best way to do that is to show your true, awesome self.

UpYourTinderGame.com helps guys to showcase their best self to potential matches. Using a short survey, we find out what you like, and what you’re like. With this information, and the five to ten photos you send us, we create a stellar profile for you — one that is aligned with your goals, and female approved!

On my site, I offer a 47-page e-book entitled, Top Ten Reasons Why Girls Swipe Left. This provides all the tools for a guy to create a baseline profile that showcases their personalities best. I’m a regular user of dating apps, including Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge with over 1,000 matches altogether, but I’ve also sourced information and quotes from my network of women across the country. In this article, I’ll share my philosophy, and the top five reasons why your profile isn’t appealing to women.

Why Isn’t My Profile Working?

Where did your views about what the opposite sex is attracted to come from? Car commercials? Rap videos? Mad Men? What I have found on phone dating apps is that guys tend to have an idea of how to present themselves that they believe will attract girls. And not just girls, but hot girls. In the media, hot girls are attracted to money, fame, and cars. But keep in mind that media is trying to sell something to YOU, not to women.

So when you post a picture of yourself in front of a Ferrari, thinking that is what a hot girl would find attractive, you are taking a cue from advertising executives who market to men. Not necessarily to women. As DJ Khaled would say, you played yourself.

What would be more attractive to women is showing your True Awesome Self. When women see your pictures and your bio, they are trying to figure out how you would fit into their life. Sure, a picture of you on a motorcycle may signal that you could bring excitement into their life, but they need to see something that they can connect with emotionally too.

Showing what you like and what you’re like will allow these connections to happen, but the following five reasons why girls swipe left can spoil your efforts!

Reason 5: Ineffective Display of Male Sexuality

Girls definitely want to know if you are physically fit. Health is important, and really adds to the overall sexiness of a person. But a basic photo of your bulging…um…muscles isn’t going to get you very far.

Face the facts: women are not as turned on by pictures as men are. Sure, we like a nice smile, broad shoulders, and a cute behind, but we are really attracted to the personality backing up that hot body. Seeing a picture of a hot guy with his shirt off tells us nothing except that you go to the gym — which is important! But it gives no indication that you are smart, or kind, or funny. A profile full of pictures of your hot bod and no words is an automatic left swipe for me.

Your hotness IN CONTEXT is important. Showcasing how good you look on a day-to-day basis is much preferred to showing off just to show off. Like, if you have a nice chest, I would rather see a picture of you with your dog on the beach without a shirt on than a mirror selfie.

Trust me, if you have a hot body, we notice. But that’s not all we notice, so give us something substantial to build a fantasy around.

Reason 4: Spelling and Grammar Mistakes

As a society we have never been more cognizant of the written word. Through texting, emailing, and websites we are looking at words all day, everyday. In your dating profile, you want to put the best version of yourself forward. It’s fine to be informal with your buds on a texting thread, but in your profile you want to appear educated, or at least able to string together a sentence.

If all goes well, there will be a time for texting this girl cute messages and inside jokes, but your profile is not the time for it.

Reason 3: Negativity and Bad Vibes

Like attracts like, so if you are putting out bad vibes, you are going to get them back. In the form of no matches. I’m not saying don’t be yourself. If you’re not a happy go lucky person, its fine to let that come through. You don’t have to smile in every picture. But posturing a badass, or super macho attitude screams of insecurity. Negativity and bad vibes in your profile predict drama in any real life relationship. Don’t use phone dating apps to deal with your issues.

“No drama” is a huge red flag for me. You know those guys are gigantic drama kings and game players…. I also can’t stand when they’re flipping off the camera. So many guys do this, I just don’t get it. — Dana

Reason 2: Low Quality or Misleading Pictures

Are you bald? A little chubby? Have a weird birthmark? Think you can hide it with pictures from five years ago, or extreme close up selfies, or a grainy filter? You can’t.

When you meet a girl in real life, they are going to zero in on the thing you were trying to hide. It’s the first thing they see. Don’t try to hide your flaws, just find the best, most current picture of yourself and put it out there. If you have an interesting profile that shows your personality, then most girls are pretty forgiving of flaws.

Maybe she’s got a thing for guys with a bald head, or a space between their teeth, or maybe she’ll just see something in your eyes. There is a girl out there who is looking for you. Don’t make her look too hard.

I look for variety in their photos- a few different angles, a headshot, a full body. At least a couple of those photos should be good quality; if all your pics are too dark or washed out, or are crunchy, poorly resized cameraphone pics, I’m out. — Mari

Reason 1: No Words in Your Profile

As a rule, I swipe left on guys who don’t have a bio. So do many girls I know. Having no bio is the kiss of death for phone app dating.

The bio is a major component of how girls evaluate you. Tattoo this onto your brain:

GIRLS READ BIOS

They are not just swiping through at rapid speed, swiping on your first picture. They want to know what you’re about, and whether you can make them laugh, or feel a connection, or if you like the same bands or authors they do.

Great profiles will get conventionally unattractive guys matches, and will get mediocre-looking guys messages. Your bio is more important than you could ever guess.

So what goes into a great bio? They’re all different. But one place to start is by including things you really love. Deep conversations about values, dreams, hopes, and fears can and will happen later. But you’ve got to start out talking about something, and it might as well be something you both really love. Be yourself, and put your interests, needs and wants out there, and you’ll find someone who is on your wavelength.

If I know zero about you going in other than what you look like, that’s a no. — Kelly Ann

So How Do I Get Girls to Swipe Right?

Follow my suggestions and it’s likely you’ll do much better on phone app dating. But if you want to optimize your app dating profile, you’re going to have to get advice from the experts — real, live girls. And not just your married sister, but girls who have been in the trenches of phone app dating, and who can customize a profile to fit your needs.

At Up Your Tinder Game, that’s what we specialize in. If you’re serious about improving your chances with phone app dating, consult with experts. Let us help you up your game.