The Happy Disposition
Happiness is something everyone so desires. Back in the day when I had a blog, I wrote a popular piece on emotions. I curated a playlist to go with it. So if you were feeling sad, I arranged something you could listen to. If you were dealing with anger, or fear, there were stuffs I put in there to help. Happiness was the last emotion and I remembered it being the hardest to write because there was really nothing I could tell someone who was happy except to share their joy so others can feel it too. The happy disposition for me is a constant state of mind that excludes every other negative emotion and by itself weathers the nuances of challenges we may face on the daily, in order to attain a merituos flow of joy, satisfaction, and fufilment.
Just like we work out our salvation, arriving at this happiest point in our lives require efforts. I don’t know what goes what for the next person, and I don’t have it all figured out, but I know for sure happiness is attainable. The very optimistic agree that there is no reason not to be happy at any point. That belief is also part of this wonderful disposition. The reason is that life is continuous. Achieving a particular goal opens up an opportunity for another undertaking. There has to be a way to apply what you have learned that gives you so much happiness. There has to be a way to express your new status. So if you align your happiness to be singularly underpined to a particular desire then you might be setting up yourself for failure or disappointment. Let me illustrate this. You got an ambition that’s causing you lots of sacrifices, which of course is the way to achieve the goal anyway, when you get to that point but have no preparation or idea of what comes next, the cost of getting there might not be justified. The journey was rough. You didn’t enjoy anything. The plan was to start having fun once you got there and luckily you did, but when the curtain was pulled back you realized it wasn’t worth it. Won’t the short-lived happiness disappear?
Since life doesn't care if you are going up, going down, or standing at a point, it means we must have to do something. There is no going around it. Even when you say I give up, I won't work on my dreams anymore, blah blah, you must end up doing something which well could as well be helping someone else's dreams. To have a better chance at a longer and more fufiling happy disposition we must first of all figure our what it is we want. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a step but we should try to ascertain the nature of the journey before we take that first step. I have written about this measure here. You have to make sure what you are going for is inline with who you are. Nobody should make this decision for you since nobody will walk the walk for you. In this way you can better brace the challenges that come along. At any point, you will find a reason to smile and be happy. By the time you get to the destination, you are ready for what comes next and the happy trail only grows bigger with more benefits.
Some told me yesterday that he appreciates my tenacity in foregoing some enjoyments today in order to secure a better future. I admitted that is generally how I approach life. The long-term mentality somehow always appealed to me. I wrote extensively about this topic as well in my old website. But I reminded this dude, my guy, that oh, even for this year I have huge plans on having all the fun I can. I am a private person so I don’t always allow people to know everything I do. Maybe they figure I am not having a good time or something, I don’t know. Matter of fact, what that’s fun to one person might be annoying to another. Our fufilment are different. The happy disposition we aspire to or live cannot always be the same with anothers. I realized this a long time due to how things were for me, and since then have carved out a standard for myself. I set it up in such a way no matter how hard things might be, some basic tenets that provide a certain dosage of happiness is included in my plans. Since I am highly uncomfortable without them, I always make sure. So as I progress it’s about stacking more on this framework. Look, the process is part and parcel of our lives. Today is part of life just as yesterday was and tomorrow will be. None is going to last longer than twenty four hours. I can remember vividly about my secondary school time, I attended a strict boarding house. Some say the training was paramilitary, lol, I don’t know. I ended up leaving, but sometimes I look back with nostalgia. And it just happens that situations that caused us pain with the passage of time can make us laugh. What am saying is at each point we have to assume a happy disposition because there is always some benefits in every situation. The discipline I learned in that environment has been guiding me. I was able to sustain my desire to read that I had picked up at home. With the games facilities, I only cannot play sports that I don’t like or am not exposed to. When we assume this joyful disposition, then the happiness that comes with the realization of our biggest dreams cannot be easily put to words.