I read the story with great interest. As I wrote to you in other comments, as a person of transition I am fascinated with how people assign gender. It ranges from the superficial of someone walking down the street all the way to being naked with a lover. I recall seeing an article years ago which divided it into six levels of gender assignment of the subject. It’s like gay-dar or trans-dar. Certain lesbians freak at the thought they might end up with a person of transition in their bed and not be able to “clock” the person which I always thought was a distinction without a difference.