I am a ciswoman, able to feel and identify with the gender that I’ve been attributed
Allison! You are an incredible storyteller.
Inês P. Melo
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Strange as it sounds, for many women of transition they become cis after enough years and no, you don’t need to remind us that most trans women will never bear children — that technology is still about 10 to 20 years away. Some long term postop women think of themselves as neo-cis.

I left being a boy 43 years ago while in college I started taking estrogen under a doctor’s supervision. That’s a long time to live on the other side of the fence so to speak.

Re-learning one’s own body and that body’s sexual responses can be a challenge. Many of us did not play kissing games with boys when we were younger. How does one gain the knowledge that most natal women have by the time they are in their 20s? And yet we do figure it out. It is somewhat daunting to be romantic with someone larger and more physically powerful. Woman-to-woman does not carry nearly as much implied threat.

At the same time as the years go by, those olden days are so olden. Becoming cis is in the cards for some trans women, but I believe we have to want it.