Screw that. This is incredibly offensive because all of the guys you listed suffered from mental illnesses. When you have a disability like that it’s incredibly hard to be able to function in American society, let alone to reach your potential. My husband has Crohn’s and ADD. He’s a literal genius and he absolutely has not been able to reach his potential yet because no one even took his complaints about abdominal pain and fatigue seriously until this year, and he’s 32. He hasn’t graduated college because he wasn’t diagnosed with ADD until he’d already dropped out/burnt out 4 times. Being with him might have hampered my potential in some ways: I would have left the Midwest a lot sooner if I hadn’t married him. However, he’s been a catalyst for me becoming a more empathetic and mindful person. He treats me as an equal partner and I wouldn’t trade our verbal sparing matches for any amount of money. Being with him hasn’t kept me from starting my own business or (fingers-crossed for this semester) finishing my Master’s. So in closing, my husband has a ton of “potential” and it in no way makes him less of a person worth being with, much less less of a “man”.