“I’m a billionaire and nobody loves me.” — The easy trick to be loved by everybody.

When I receive clients in my office in Italy and they ask me:

“Riccardo, I really love this person. I’m a CEO of a billion company, I’m intelligent, funny, lovely partner, but nobody loves me. They respect me, they find me attractive, they admire my villa in Montecarlo and my Bentley. But then as soon as I try to engage a story, they prefer other insignificant partners. Usually uglier, poorer, without any legacy or asset behind them. This is simply frustrating me to death. I have had everything in life, except love. I just want somebody to love that love me in return.”

The truth is: “there’s no meritocracy in emotions”

Imagine if you lived all your life behaving good.

Imagine doing everything politely and kindly every single day.

Imagine that you acted the best you could just to receive back all your kindness and gratitude YOU provided FIRST to the people you dealt with.

HOW FAIR IT SOUNDS?

You behave good, you receive respect, admiration and love, right?

But how many times has this REALLY happened to you?

There’s no evil in life, there’s no meritocracy, and usually the nicer you are with people, the worst you receive from them.

The reason is simple: a caring mother never treat his son well since his childhood, so why someone should trust and love who’s behaving differently from a mother?

When you try to please someone, from the other side you appear sneaky, fake.

It’s like you meet a salesman that you don’t trust. The problem is not in what he says. He can tells you the best things in the world, he can make you the offer of a century, but since you FEEL he’s not trustworthy, you build a defence wall from him.

This happens for anybody.

We pretend love, but we don’t build trust, we don’t build a REAL CONNECTION with the other person.

We treat people like we were on tinder “we swipe it right, and we wait the other person to do the rest”.

But try to think about this for a moment.

If you want other people to make you feel good, what are you doing to help them to create a real connection with you?

Why trying to hide your insecurities, your weaknesses, and pretending others to believe you are the nicest person they’ve ever met?

It is credible?

Smash down what’s departing your WORST version of yourself from the others.

Everybody nowadays is trying to be the best version of himself.

But if everybody was perfect, what’s the benefit of being with a boring “another-perfect-person”?

Nobody wants to be with an anonymous “copy”, we want somebody that’s CRAFTED specifically for making US feel extraordinarily good.

And that’s my job with my clients.

I CRAFT OUT of them, their personality.

It doesn’t matter if they are football players, CEOs of multinationals companies, hustling entrepreneurs or just people interested in improving themeselves and their life.

Because everybody has a CHARACTER, everybody has AWFULLY EXTRAORDINARILY UNIQUE FAULTS.

If everybody was the same, nobody would be even RECOGNIZABLE.

Your faults are your most defining characteristics.

And you should start LEVERAGING them, because they are the ingredients that create the interest and the emotions in others.

This works both in business and of course in relationship.

You are an attractive person JUST IF you are the true awful version of yourself and you start CARING people for what’s awful in them.

That’s when the real connection happens.

That’s when you turn from “just another nice person that nobody really cares” to “a gorgeous extraordinary individual that everybody loves”.

So why I’m writing this article?

People keep lying themselves why they’re not reaching their goals in life.

People are too selfish to understand WHY they need to talk with someone they trust to help them, to remove those lies and limiting beliefs, and understand the path they need to take to reach their goals.

It’s a tremendously awesome journey, but you need first to understand you are LIMITED BY WRONG BELIEFS.

It’s like running with a really heavy backpack, the moment you decide you need to have someone REMOVING that backpack, you double or even triple the speed and everything becomes easier.

I receive clients in New York, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Dubai, Milan.

If you need some quick advice, feel free contact me info@vultum.org

Tell me your story and what you want to accomplish, you’ll discover how amazing things you can achieve by understanding yourself.

Because YOU feel you can achieve so much more, but you just don’t know how to do it.