How Much Rain Are You Waiting For?

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“I’m saving for a rainy day.”

I think we have all said this at some point, about saving for something special. But it is funny how the rain never comes. Even when a special occasion arrives, the treat never happens.

“But I’m saving for something really special.”

How special does something need to be? How remarkable or noteworthy should that thing be? How much rain must fall to be called a rainy day? Is it when we need our raincoat and wellies? How about a dinghy? A boat? Or a life boat? Why are we so bad at recognising our rainy days?

There is often a need to ease the guilt when we treat ourselves. Be it a weekend at a luxury spa, spending over £300 on a pair of shoes or do anything else out of the ordinary — something in the special treat category. Where does the tinge of guilt or need to justify it come from?

Instead of seeing how deserving we are, we see;

I’ll just do some more work before I give myself a break

I’ve not really earned this treat.

I don’t work as hard as other people

I’m not worthy of a treat.

I shouldn’t really treat myself like this.

I feel a bit guilty.

These thoughts are what keeps the rainy days at bay.

There is the tendency to keep going and not stop for air. Each day rolls right into the next. Each week merges into months and before you realise it, you have put off the idea of a break or a treat and the year is over. You will definitely treat yourself next year. That is a promise. But underneath, as much as you mean what you say, you know the chances are, you will break your personal promise.

Ask yourself, What would make you feel deserving of your rainy day?

Did you celebrate when you passed your driving test? What about those exams you passed? That new job you have or even simply getting those tasks completed on your list. I would put a bet that you rarely acknowledge any of your achievements. Perhaps you play them down or dismiss them as ordinary. Maybe you strolled right into the next thing without a second thought.

There is, of course, a way to combat this. Instead of waiting until you think you are worthy, why not give yourself twelves small treats per year? One each month. Or every six months? A trip to the theatre — a long weekend break — buy that book you have always wanted — cook yourself a wonderful meal — light some candles, buy some bath bombs and have a long soak in the bath.

Whatever would make something special for you, do it. Decide you are worthy and do not need an excuse. You do not need to justify why you are honouring yourself with something special. For some, a quiet night in with some wine and a good book is a treat. It does not need to have a monetary value. Neither should it be what others class as a rainy day. This moment is all about you and what makes you feel good.

It is about recognising your value and that working yourself into the ground serves no-one. Being at your best and knowing your self-worth serves, not only you but those around you too. It means you will show up looking and feeling well. You will have the energy to give back and become an example of what self-love and respect looks like. Think about ways you can honour yourself.

The alternative is complaining how you never get the chance to do things for yourself. How everyone else always gets to treat themselves but you do not. How life is not fair.

You have a choice about how you care for you.

What shall you do for you on your rainy day?