It’s OK to Let Go of Toxic Friends
Have you ever heard the saying, there are people in your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime? If you’ve spent anytime online, where quotes are regurgitated across thousands of accounts, I’m pretty sure that one sounds familiar. And you know why it’s been said so many times? Because it’s true!
Lately, I’ve been unplugging from social media an reflecting on a lot of things. Especially, how some people I thought would be around for a lifetime have slowly faded into the distance. I thought they would be down forever and come along with me for this ride that is life/entrepreneurship. But, they have shown either that they weren’t ready for where I’m headed or just trying to hang around so that when I do make it they can reap the rewards from being there in the beginning.
Forget all of that though. Because I’m at a point in my life where I’m cutting off people left and right. So what if you’ve been around for a minute. If you’re not adding anything to my life or inspiring me, you’re as good as ghost. And if I come away feeling worse than when I came after talking to you, there’s no point in you being in my life.
A lot of times we hold on to people in our lives that aren’t good for us for convenience sake. You know, when you’ve known them so long and are too lazy or uncomfortable with getting to know new people. Or you just plain don’t want to be lonely. I’ve been there before and let me tell you, it’s better to be alone and exit your comfort zone that to be in toxic relationships.
I was reading a book the other day that mentions that not only are toxic relationships bad for your health, success and wealth, but when taken to an extreme they can also kill you. I thought that was a little drastic of a statement. But, now that I’ve had some time to think on it, I can see how that could be true.
Toxic relationships can drive you to unhealthy habits and unnecessary stress that will ultimately lead to your death. It might not be apparent in the short-term, but as you get older, you’ll definitely feel it’s effects. Which is a road I’m sure you don’t want to take, because I don’t either.
It took awhile for me to realize this (minus the death part). But, once I did, it was on and popping. I started roundhouse kicking people out of my circle left and right. If they tried to throw shade, they were out. If they laughed at my vision, goodbye. And if they showed no ambition, sayonara. Because at the end of the day, who has time for people that are trying to hold you back.
A couple of years ago, I kept hearing the saying, you are the 5 people you hang around the most, which threw me for a loop. Not because I was hanging around with scammers and trap queens. But because most of the people I was hanging around were broke as f*ck. And you know what, I was too!
It wasn’t until I started evaluated my circle and distancing myself from the complacent and miserable that had a depressing story every time I saw them that my life started to change.
At first, I had nobody to talk to, except online. And that sh*t sucked. I wasn’t willing to fall back on no good people though. So, I stuck it out and began reaching out to more positive and ambitious people that were actually doing something with their lives. And boy, oh boy, my life has been on 10.
It wasn’t like I wasn’t trying to keep my old relationships in tact. It’s just that as you grow older, you change and inevitably grow apart from people that you thought would be down forever. That’s a part of life. Especially if you’re growing as you should.
The only regret I have is that I didn’t start sooner. If I did, I’d probably be a millionaire by now. But that’s another story in itself…