Advice To A Female Friend
Me: Hmmmmm … do you know how he feels about you?
Her: Sort of?
Me: Okay … one thing at a time.
When you say ‘sort of?’ …
1) What do you mean? — Have you asked him? Has he told you?
2) Why the question mark? — What are you uncertain about?
3) Have you outright told him, or just done the usual stupid thing that women do and dropped vague hints disguised as something completely unrelated … like, instead of saying “I’m in love with you”, you say “You should meet my friends, they’re really lovely and I think you’d get on well with them” … in the utterly pointless hope that he’s psychic and will just know?
I don’t want to suggest anything drastic … I don’t want to ruin your chances with him … but …
If you suspect he is into you, but he hasn’t made a move, he may be shy … (you might be surprised to hear this, but a lot of men are) … and/or, perhaps, a bit of a gentleman … so, he may be afraid to, in case he offends you.
So …
Physical proximity is a good test … try sitting close to him on the sofa — if he doesn’t shy away, that’s potentially a good sign.
It might, however, be that he’s too much of a gentleman to want to make you feel awkward in your own home and gives you space when you try that.
So, a certain amount of casual physical contact can work wonders — (gentle/playful) ‘horsing around’ physically can be a good ice-breaker too, without it necessarily being taken as too forward, if you don’t overdo it.
Of course, if he’s painfully shy … or too much of a gentleman … then he might still be too scared to interpret it the right way.
Gazing deeply into his eyes can have a bit of a mesmerising effect. Don’t overdo it though — you don’t want to give him the impression that you’re an overly intense psycho bunny boiler who’ll tie him to the bed and chop his dick off.
Make him laugh — it isn’t only women this has a positive effect on.
If you think he might need help relaxing, I’m not suggesting you get him completely paralytic, but getting him mildly intoxicated, one way or another, might help him do so.
Generally, however, men aren’t mind readers … and most of them have never been a woman either … so, they don’t necessarily understand the subtle complexities of female communication — if you say “Please pass me the salt” to a man, usually he will just pass you the salt rather than asking what’s wrong in your life.
Ultimately, therefore, it might be best to just tell him outright how you feel about him — whether you do that with words or just kiss him and hope for the best is up to you, but … if you want to take the chance … and win his heart before it’s too late and another woman leaves him in no doubt … a kiss is pretty difficult to misinterpret. Unless it’s a sisterly peck on the cheek, of course — in which case you’re a lost cause anyway and should probably join a convent as soon as humanly possible.
Most importantly though, try to relax and just be you — if he likes you then that’s how he likes you.
Hope that helps.
Oh … and don’t ask him to marry you on the first date … or what name he wants to give your first born child; not unless you are a psycho bunny boiler who’ll tie him to the bed and chop his dick off — in which case, he’ll get the message.
