Sharing My Happy Thoughts

I know there’s a lot of serious stuff going on in the world. How could anyone not! I’ve noticed. So, I’m not viewing the world through rose tinted glasses as far as “the world” is concerned.

But, I would like to just say how happy I am to have both my men children under one roof again!

I mean,I’m not supposed to be this happy about it…right?

Does it make me a bad mom? Does it say something is lacking in my parenting skills? I honestly don’t know.

What I do know is that when my youngest son left to live with his father his senior year of high school, I felt like I had been robbed of finishing my job.

My job as a mother has always been my priority. I’ve had other jobs and even what most others would call a “career”. In fact I’ve had a few of them.

But, I like being a mom! So much in fact, that I loan my mommying abilities out hourly. I’ve even had a few nannying jobs that latest years. I love raising children and being a mom. I’ve gotten good at it too, if I might say so myself. I’ve got two excellent referrals.

Of course I had my bad times. But even when I made a bad choice, I’d apologise to the kids; using age appropriate verbiage and the subject matter always being taken into context. Some mistakes, just don’t need to be mentioned. Especially if it hadn’t had enough time to cause any kind of damage. If you’re a parent, you know what I’m talking about.

Accepting my actions, knowing how to admit when I was wrong, feeling genuine remorse and apologising is key to raising kids. Letting them see and learn that whole process from the “unfortunate beginning” to the “apology with hopeful hug” ending. Shows them that you are learning life, right along side them. The take away from that one lesson pays out throughout life. Both of men children have said that they appreciated that about me. That’s always nice to hear!

So, my youngest manchild. I went to pick him up on a Saturday evening and by Monday morning, we had house rules hashed out (like, respecting each others space and nap times etc, you know, the important stuff.) and he had a full time job.

My eldest had just come home from a weekend with family. His paternal family just sold off the majority of his lawn service company and my eldest takes care of what is local. So he was working. But after going over the new “Respect Each Other (partially written in pencil) So Will All Feel Good And Still, Not Only Like Each Other But Love Each Other” ,everything just feel into a nice rhythm.

Which is a bonus. Because these two men children didn’t use to be able to agree on anything! Don’t get me wrong. As far as I could tell, they tried. Sometimes harder on some things than others. But they seem to be the two halves of the one coin that made them. I pretty much raised them both on my own.

My eldest says he hasn’t slept this good in awhile. And!…that he even missed my cooking. Which brakes my mommy heart into a whole lot of pieces. All fixable tho. Just by doing what I love to do.

Being their mom.

Because my little branch of the family tree is under one roof again, the Mary Poppins and Betty Crocker aspects of my being are content.

I am happy. And it’s been a long time in coming.

So ,maybe my glasses are a little rose tinted. But it looks like I’m going to need them. I’ve got my two rays of sunshine back home!