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Biggest lesson of 2014

If it is one thing 2014 for taught me is that not everybody seems to be who they say they are! A lot of people are living this life wearing a mask, playing a role that was not written for them.

Friend: (n) a person whom one is allied in a struggle or cause; one who supports, sympathizes with, or patronizes a group, cause, or movement. Out of all the definitions I read, this is the one that seem to stand out the most. Throughout 2014, I went through a lot with my closet friend group from making memories, challenging friendships and mending tides. In the beginning of the year, I ended up becoming close with some people that I met through a mutual friend. I thought I left Spring semester 2014 off on a good hand but then the summer came and so did a revelation.

I learned that I have to take a step back and not fight people’s battle for them even though they are my friend. I do not have to be the mouth piece for anybody because God gave every a mouth to speak. We are all grown ups and we know how to alliterate and communicate with each other. I learned that I have to take the back seat when it does not pertain to me. Not every situation that evolves someone you care about concerns you. POINT. BLANK. PERIOD. Because in the end, you end up severing ties with other people who honestly like you or care about you. In addition, I learned that once you start fighitng other people’s and getting caught up in their drama, you start to be associated with a certain type of behavior and that is DRAMA AND CRAZINESS! Those are two things that do not describe me at all except for the fact that I am DRAMA-tic and CRAZY (in a god way, I promised). I know for a fact that nobody wants to be associated with those words unless you care mentally distraught because drama and crazy are full of negative energy. Who wants to be around negative energy? NOT I! I learn that I do not have to be anyone enabler. If they do not want to do something, they will not do it! You cannot force them to do anything.

Overall 2014 taught me that I have some great friends and some I need to reevaluate because I cannot have people who are not in my corner fighting for me. No need to carry around dead weights or any snakes in the garden because at the end of the day, I have to protect myself. I realized that I have some friends that have always had my good intentions in mind and that have been holding me down. I’ve deglecting them. So in 2015, I will start give props to those who deserve it and stop wasting my energy on those that do not matter. In 2015, I am looking at for myself first, family second, and friends third! No poor petty drama! No more wasted time! No more free entertainment from me! No more enablers! No more crutches! No more losing sleep over nothing! No more useless baggage! No more SNAKES IN THE GARDEN! So to 2015, cheers to being the best ME!