There was a time in my mid twenties where I’d get about five invitations each summer and I’d regret saying no to some of them sheerly out of time commitments. As I built up my adult wedding attendance experience, I realized like you, how ultimately a waste of time they are. Peripheral friends can go fuck themselves and are an easy no. But even for the close friends, I had much more fun hanging out with them at the parties and vacations before hand, than at the wedding. The wedding is just a a drudgery I have to go to, out of obligations. Good write up and goes into what I feel.