Poignant post.
Sunil Malhotra
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Interesting take, Sunil Malhotra. But may I suggest that even the women who appear to “enjoy objectification” are really seeking approval in a culture that tells them “you should be flattered”?

After I published this post, I received a call from my mother.

“I’m sorry,” she told me.

“I remember when these incidents happened, and I never thought about what you might be going through. I was more concerned about the intentions of the men, and happy that they found you beautiful. I was raised to want men to think I was beautiful. Women were supposed to defer to men, and the prettier you were, the easier it was for you.”

That doesn’t sound like “enjoying being objectified.” That sounds like a desperation to be socially acceptable and a fear of disapproval.

“But the world has changed so much since then, and I see things in a different way. I’m so sorry that I didn’t make it better for you.”

My mother is 73 years old: the same generation as Donald Trump.

Somehow she was capable of empathizing, taking responsibility, and showing genuine regret for her actions (or lack of action).

Is it so much to ask that the candidate for the President of the US do the same?

Thanks for your thoughtful response, Ramit.