I used to have this exact same view. Really, I did. Then I found this really awesome guy, who I have great and wonderful adventures with and we are so obnoxiously in love it’s ridiculous and I really like sharing that with the people in my world. Not as validation, not because I want the little hearts, I really truly don’t care about any of that. My reasoning is simple. It exists. As someone who was in an abusive, controlling relationship, that had many of the characteristics you mentioned by the way, I really do just want to show people that this kind of love is out here. I really am just sharing my happiness with them and letting them know not to give up hope, it exists.