Today, I start a new job. — I have my first shift today as a library clerk! You all know I love libraries. I’m pretty excited. I am in a season of change and growth. My role at home is shifting as my kids are now all teenagers — my twins turned 13…

One thing I miss about 2020 is how un-busy we were. — “Busy feels icky.” — Me, utilizing my extensive vocabulary in therapy last week. There was a time when we were always busy. “Crazy busy.” I don’t remember much from that time but I have my journals and personal blogs to remind me. My head spins reading through them now. How…

Just two days into playing Peridot, I’ve uninstalled Niantic’s latest game. — I’ve sung Niantic’s praises many times through the years. Nearly seven years ago, I wrote a piece titled: Three Reasons I Love Pokémon GO (Possibly More Than My Kids Do), in which I listed the reasons I was all for the brand new game craze that was taking over the…

March 2023 — Visible Bi+ launched one year ago, in March 2022, as a volunteer project to create a new space for members of the Bi+/MSpec community to share their voices in an effort to increase authentic visibility and dispel the many misconceptions which fuel biphobia and bi-erasure. We are immensely proud of…

A little fun in honor of my birthday. — Back in 2019, I did a “get to know me” -type essay in honor of my 38th birthday. I thought about revisiting that this month, maybe updating it with a few more topics for my 42nd birthday. But it felt like it wasn’t the right time, yet. Then, I remembered…

Words I’ve tattooed into my skin. — “Survival is insufficient.” — Star Trek: Voyager, Season 6, Episode 2 While I don’t consider myself a proper Trekkie, I am a fan. I’ve watched nearly all the series in their entirety, some twice. But even though I’d seen this episode during two different full-series watch-throughs of Star Trek: Voyager…

I’m still the same me, but I’m relating to you differently. — It often seems like people don’t quite understand how I can say that I am the same person I’ve always been while also talking about growth and change. I admit it does sound contradictory on the surface. But, the thing is, I am the exact same person at my core…

Six months later, I can’t say my bisexuality feels any less invisible. — As I said in “Wearing My Bi Pride on My Skin”: For years and years, I convinced myself that everyone knew about me being bi (or, at least, assumed it). I believed that just me being me made it so obvious that I didn’t need to directly draw attention to…

We had no examples of healthy relationships to guide us. — I had no idea what a healthy, loving relationship looked like before I met John. My parents divorced when I was a year old. My dad’s second marriage (to the woman I grew up with as my step-mom) also ended in divorce. My mom’s subsequent relationship had longevity but I’d…