The Biggest Mom-Fail: Not Taking Care of Yourself

This one is for the ladies. Sorry, guys — maybe next time!

You made it. You loaded up the van, arranged the luggage, passed out juice boxes and bagels and answered the million questions your kids kept asking. Your mind has been a whirlwind of to-do lists, runny noses, and random, “I like those boots, where’d she get them?” thoughts. So now, you are on the plane, the kids are buckled, backpacks are stowed under the seats and you let out a sigh of relief. Peace and quiet. The flight attendant will do her safety talk and I will get three minutes to breathe. Scroll through your phone one last time and close your eyes. “Ma’am?” The flight attendant taps your shoulder, “Just remember, you need to take care of yourself first in case of emergency.” She is holding the oxygen mask, smiling sweetly at your two children and gives you the knowing, “You’re exhausted, but still need to do this”, look.

Oh, my.

Have you ever been in that situation? Or one like it? You are running at full sprint through life and then are reminded that you need to take care of yourself — before the kids, your husband, your to-do list, or your serving. Yes, I said serving. Jesus calls us to work at things with our whole heart, but he also calls us to rest. Psalms 62:5 says, “Let all that I am wait quietly before him, for my hope is in him”. Scripture goes on to tells us in the book of Ephesians to “Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and actions” (4:23).

Ladies, do you hear the words?

Wait. Quiet. Hope. Spirit. Renew.

As women of Christ, we need to remember to reach up, grab our oxygen mask and put it in place before we help anyone else. For me, my oxygen mask is Jesus. My time with Jesus is crucial. With Him, I can be quiet, read His Word, and tell him my most anxious thoughts. He breathes life into me, so that I can be the best wife, momma, friend, and daughter I can be. We read in Colossians 1:11 how Paul encouraged the church: “We pray that you would be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy.”

Are you filled with joy? Have you made time to rest?

You may be wondering how to do this practically. Girls, it’s a process! There are ups and downs as we go. Here’s what works for me:

1. Get Up. Wake up 30 minutes earlier for quiet time with Jesus. Brew some coffee, grab your YouVersion Bible app, journal, planner, and pull up a seat. YouVersion has tons of great reading plans. I also try to have one book I am reading nearby, to fill my mind after I fill my soul.

2. Go Out. Take a walk, a jog, a sprint, but get out. Taking time to clear your mind, pray, listen to some great music can help you prepare (or end) your day. Pop those ear buds in and listen to a great podcast, like the Messy Table.

3. Give Time…to yourself. This will be the hardest, be sure of it! There are always a million things to do, but only one you. Whether it is a bubble bath, a zumba class, or a shopping trip, set aside some time for just you. What do you love doing? Give yourself some time.

Looking for more? Start a free 7-Day devotional.