Sorry you are looking incorrectly. There is not such thing as “the one” there are the many who will fit your criteria. The question is will you fit theirs? Emotion,and lust must be in sync. Love happens.

The body responds to proper stimuli. The packaging of that stimuli can be fleeting. A body might respond tonite and tomorrow be repelled. Time is the factor. A lot of “dates” for coffee doe not equate to the hard work of learning interpersonal skills. Social skills are the other part. Then being honest with your self and your values.