Growers & Showers
How we can get past our self imposed limitations.
It is never too late to be what you might have been.
— Mary Anne Evans (pen name: George Eliot)
We are handed situations where we get to face the things that limit us. Things from our past. Ways in which we’ve learned to cope with situations. What we’ve needed to do to survive.
We reach a plateau and can’t go further because we are holding ourselves back for one reason or another. We might not even realize what we’re doing wrong. That’s when we really need to look inward and reach out for help. Why am I getting these results? What can I do better? How can I get past my fears and self imposed limitations?
Sometimes we get help from friends or family. Sometimes we need to go to places where we can’t involve those people. Sometimes we need outsiders or professionals to help us. People who’ve made it their mission to serve people in need.
We need to accept that we are who we are and where we are right now. We also need to see that we can change it if we want to.
If you’re too shy, be more forward. If you’re overly extrovert, be more introvert. If you’re too pragmatic, be more dogmatic. If you’ve got problems doing it, ask for help. Don’t ever give in and accept that you’re limited to who and where you are right now. You can go so much further if you choose to.
Why not “All of the above”?
So put yourself out there as you are right now. Let people see it right now. Then go back into yourself and see where you want to go from there. Come back and emerge as the person you’ve become. Let people see who you’ve become. Just keep repeating this over and over and over.
You can’t spend your time just growing. You can’t spend your time just showing either. The people who win are Growers AND Showers!
Through these experiences and confrontations with ourselves we grow. It’s like fertilizer. Don’t wanna see it, don’t wanna touch it, don’t wanna smell it. But man does it make the roses grow! If we just can tolerate that it’s what we need to do we’ll reap beautiful rewards.
That’s one big load of… SHUT YOUR MOUTH! I’m talkin’ ’bout manure? THEN WE CAN DIG IT!
So these are the lessons we want and need to learn for ourselves. We want to pass them on to all the people who we love and respect. It’s all well and good to know these things, but why don’t people listen?
Either they’re not ready for it just yet, or they need to be lead by example. If we don’t face our own challenges how can we expect others to do so?
If we start changing our own lives for the better, that’s our best chance to influence others to do the same. Talk the talk and walk the walk!
Mary Anne Evans a.k.a George Eliot.
I want to reserve the first half of quotes to an amazing writer, journalist and thinker: Mary Anne Evans. She wrote under the pen name George Eliot because she wanted her ideas to be taken seriously. This was during the Victorian Era, so female anythings weren’t all that welcome into the boys clubs. Fortunately her ideas still live on and i’d like to share some of them with you.
The strongest principle of growth lies in the human choice.
What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?
What loneliness is more lonely than distrust?
The important work of moving the world forward does not wait to be done by perfect men.
— Mary Anne Evans
And here are some quotes about growth!
There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.
— Ronald Reagan
Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his .
— Frank A. Clark
The growth and development of people is the highest calling of leadership.
— Harvey S. Firestone
All artists are people of growth. It’s like food, you take the good and leave the rest.
— Andrew Jack
Life is about growth. People are not perfect when they’re 21 years old.
— Bill Walton
Only in growth, reform, and change, paradoxically enough, is true security to be found.
— Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Growth is an erratic forward movement: two steps forward, one step back. Remember that and be very gentle with yourself.
— Julia Cameron
Originally published at blog.zacscy.com on January 18, 2014.