Yes, And It’s A Good Thing
“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” — Nathaniel Branden
I’d just like to amend the quote above to include: The third step is action.
Being aware and learning to accept that things are a certain way is great. But if we don’t also act on it, there’s very little hope for change.
With that out of the way, here’s the story.
Growing up there was one thing I kept hearing from my friends every 6 months or so. The line was something like “Dude, you’ve changed”.
It was meant as a criticism but I felt that it was something that was right for me. When they’d say things like “You change opinions more often than I change my underwear”, I felt like I was making progress toward something. I didn’t quite know what though.
For a kid it isn’t easy to stick to your guns in the face of that kind of criticism. Hell, it isn’t easy to do when you’re an adult either.
People say these things because they don’t want you to change. They’re perhaps afraid of change. They might even be envious.
It’s like crabs in a bucket. When they see you climbing out of the bucket, they try to drag you back down.
But change can be good. When we change, we change one small part of the world.
We don’t know how much that change can do further down the line. The compounding effects can be enormous if you change the trajectory of your life just by a little.