How the feminine element changes everything

Ziad Alkirwy
Nov 4 · 2 min read

What is the studied life if not an endless undoing of the knots we gained from childhood and upbringing? These are my attempts at doing just that.

“Women are born rich” is an undeniable truth of the dating market and social life in general. Puberty alone gives women the beauty which makes them welcome in all social settings, from bars and coffee shops to commercials and shared images on social media. When considered, our culture’s obsession with youth is heavily lopsided in the female direction.

By contrast, few things are deemed as worthless as the young man. He lacks all the qualities which make a man valuable: experience, skill, and proof of endurance to name a few. His wide-eyed naivete is not cute or charming as is the case with young women. The young man needs to be beaten down and grinded up so that he can be transformed into a valuable man. This is the consensus.

Part of the beating is rejection by women, which makes men cynical and forces them to be stoic — a quality less appreciated by women than advertised. Naturally, a man’s view of the world becomes darker. Condition men to be made of stone and they will begin to look gritty.

All of that changes when the man encounters the female element. A woman’s worldview, because of her circumstances, is characterised by love and inclusivity. Only when she touches the man does the stoic shell begin to break. The effect is instant and he releases many of his hard held beliefs. In a sense, the man is brought back from the abyss.

What happens to those men who never rendezvous with femininity?

Ziad Alkirwy
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