If it was easy, everyone would do it
Tomika Nicole Lunsford is a mom of 6, born and raised in Arizona and currently residing in Maricopa. She shares her personal fitness journey involving self acceptance, adversity and breaking through mental barriers.
“If It Was Easy, Everyone Would Do It” — The past year, I have heard this quote an unmentionable amount of times.
What is it about exercise that is so hard? Is doing a squat or a 45 minute workout hard? Is losing 5 to 100 pounds what I consider hard?
I am a 38 year old woman that has endured many aspects in life; the good, the bad and the horrific. For example; being a teenage mom, a divorcee, a single parent and not to mention, 86 pounds in weight gain, the looming difficulties of incurring self-positivity has been an ongoing occurrence.
I’ve experienced seasons of depression which led to self-sabotaging behaviors. A year and half ago I decided I needed to take control of my life and be the best version of myself. Since I could not change problematic woes in my past, I began working on what I could change.
My weight-loss journey has been a rollercoaster ride; not only with the weight, but with an emotional surge of complexity.
For me, exercising produces a duality of resolve: it minimizes everyday mental stressors and yet, exercise increases my physical mobility to enjoy active experiences in my children’s lives.
However, it’s not always easy to do. Truth is, anyone can do a squat and workout for 45 minutes; for me that is not the hard part.
The hard part for me is when my body begins to hurt and my mind wants to quit. The hard part is when my thoughts of defeat manifest themselves and I become uncomfortable.
The hard part is facing that mental block. It’s not the exercise itself or losing the weight that is the hard part.
The hard part for me is facing my fears, facing what I have been conditioned to think about myself and questioning everything I know to be true.
I have cried many times during workouts.
I’ve been upset with the pain I’ve endured; causing, to quit a repetition too soon. I’ve started and stifled a workout regime.
I’ve followed my nutrition plan 100% and I’ve completely failed at following a plan. I know what it feels like to be 115 pounds and I know what it feels like to be 225 pounds.
I know what it feels like to love myself and I know what it feels like to hate myself. I know what it feels like to lose 50 pounds and I know what it feels like to lose 1 pound.
I know how it feels because ultimately, I am human. I am not perfect.
The weight isn’t going to come off over night, but I do know, that once I decided that I was enough — that no exterior concept defined my inner identity, I came to this realization: without struggle, there is no growth.
Exercising is a way that I express love to myself. I firmly believe, that taking care of you and loving yourself can only yield positive life results. Taking that first step is the easy part, but continuing through the process is the difficult task.
I promise, that if you will decide that you are enough today and commit to yourself to follow through, you will make it the top of the mountain. You will stand and know what it feels like to be a woman who did not let her fears hold her back.
The quote, “If it was easy everyone will do it” will forever change who you are because you have endured the hardest part: the process of becoming a better version of you.
-Tomika Nicole Lunsford | @delightedsoul_
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