Life At Home After Living Abroad

I just moved home from being abroad three weeks ago from living abroad in South Korea for a full year. Now that I’m back in sunny Los Angeles time has literally flown by. When I first touched down in LA on February 26th I was a ball of overwhelm, anxiety and excitement. I didn’t know what life would look like back home. Even though everyone was excited for my arrival I honestly wasn’t sure if I was excited, terrified or a little bit of both.

Reverse Culture Shock

As soon as I got back home I was a ball of anxiety and stress. I felt overwhelmed by the diversity. I was annoyed because I could clearly understand what everyone was saying (bye bye Korean language). I also felt small. I wasn’t special because I was a Black girl from America, I was just me, back in the hustle and bustle of Los Angeles.

Missing Life Abroad

In Korea I developed a new routine and a new comfort zone. I went to work 9–5, taught 4 to 5 classes a day, went home after work, hung out with friends on the weekends and used my breaks for traveling to nearby countries. I didn’t drive, taxi’s and buses became my best friend and living in a pretty developed city I could walk right outside to a local restaurant to eat. Life abroad was much more simple.

Getting Acclimated Again

Coming back home, I thought I had everything planned out. I was going to start writing full-time, I’d land a writing job and build my resume as a freelancer. I’d travel here and there and still maintain a halfway decent lifestyle comparable to what I had prior to leaving.
 But… I was dead wrong. I underestimated just how stressful it is to make time for family, friends and on top of that manage a blog and brand. I also forgot about the struggle to find a job (or get a business started) in the first place.

Needless to say, I had to sit down and just “relax”. I was trying to do too much in such little time. I now understand that moving back home after living abroad is just as much of a task as moving abroad in the first place. The same excitement and angst you feel leaving is reversed. I realized that the best thing I could do is to take each day as it comes, live enjoying the precious moments of reconnecting with everyone and be patient with myself.

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Originally published at on March 21, 2016.