You are becoming the biggest judgmental in the name of an observer.
Knowing someone completely in a short period of time is not exactly practical. Now is it? But what if I tell you that some people out there can portrait your whole personality within 5 minutes of opening your mouth. Now, wait a minute…. Isn’t this what judging someone means? This is how someone out there gets judged by their first look, by their first word, or just by their first step. I was shocked too when I discovered that I have been doing the same thing for years and never even realized what it was. No need to panic people! we are all humans as far as I believe. Learning how to use your personality and mind powers to know someone, is exactly what I am going to talk about today. My research on this issue will evaluate your thinking in a way that you can use your observing skills with caution on the right person.
- ‘See the world from my eyes’- Now everyone wants everyone to understand the world or look at it from their point of view. How they walk, how they talk, and how they act is what everyone is looking at. But are you observing the right way or are you just turning into the biggest judgmental? You need a calm and peaceful mind to observe what the other person is doing or saying otherwise you are judging them and that’s not what we want to do. I highly recommend you to read ‘the power of your subconscious mind’ by Joseph Murphy. My friend introduced me to this book when I was going through a breakup from a toxic relationship and was not at all capable to control what I was thinking or doing. Everyone has the ability to know what a person is gonna turn out to be. It’s just a little guidance that our mind needs to look at the deeper holes.
- ‘Are you listening to what I’m saying’- listen. Always listen to what the other person is saying even if it means that you have to go through that hell awful conversation but it actually works. When you keep quiet and listen to someone it gives your mind the time to process what they’re saying and what it actually means. This brings me to the next point try to read between the lines. I know it’s not easy but believe me, if you listen carefully without interrupting you can really get some help for this step. For example, have you ever been in a situation where you are talking about something, and someone else just starts talking about what crazy thing they did last night out of the blue? well…. that feels irritating, doesn’t it? that’s exactly how someone loses interest in you and the conversation. So believe it or not, you have to listen to what the other person is saying to know them better.
- ‘chh chh.. waiter!- You know when you look at someone for the first time and you fall for them and you are all ‘oh man I’m in love with that person’ well…. that’s bull! you didn’t fall for them you just saw them doing a nice gesture or a good deed Perse. Did you get it? Yes? No? Ok, I’m going to break it down for you. How you behave with someone else in public really says a lot about you. how you talk to the bartender or did you say thank you to the lady who makes your coffee every day says a lot about you. So always monitor their activities in public as well as in private. It’s gonna sound crazy but the more you observe how the person is treating someone else out there in public will tell you a lot about their personality. Sometimes some people have different personalities they are different in private they act differently in public but you really have to dig into it. Use your mind powers and just dig deep. No one can hold their fake personality for long so take your time before opening up.