“When we recognize that we don’t have all the time in the world, we see our priorities most clearly; we take less notice of trivial matters; we savor our life; we’re more appreciative; we’re open to reconciliation; we invest in more emotionally important parts of life, and life gets better.”
“When spring came, even the false spring, there were no problems except where to be happiest. The only thing that could spoil a day was people and if you could keep from making engagements, each day had no limits. People were always the limiters of happiness except for the very few that were as good as spring itself.”
To maintain a bond, not only do the total positive points have to outweigh the total negative points, but the two parties have to consistently redirect the agency of the interpersonal culture to aim towards a future that is meaningful before it gets too heavily reinforced in the wrong direction.