If reading your writings were mandatory course work prior to marriage, swear to high heaven, you could halve the divorce rate.
A theme of yours seems to be being self-sufficient enough emotionally. Enough so that you can love without an agenda. Basically, undoing all the programming we’ve been given all our lives that contort relationships into some sort of transaction. By freeing ourselves of unreasonable expectations of others, developing internal resilience… love becomes something you have the wherewithal to give in the first place.