While, yes, personal professionalism is absolutely up to you — the consequences are not always proportional. While that’s a great adage and lesson, it feels like you’ve passive-aggressively asked her in a victim-blaming way instead of offering it as a guide for the future.
That said, Sqsp’s culture was on par with a free for all dorm experience, so it’s easy to get caught up in the playful, relaxed atmosphere. That culture is as deceptive as it can be toxic. Plus, CC was not exactly treated like a “real” job during Amelie’s time there, they only pushed for it so hard after so many people complained about the lack of growth and direction (after she had been gone for quite awhile) but it’s always been an issue that the CC dept. felt detached and undervalued in the company.
My question for you is: why is it ok for the (Caucasian) MALE to treat his female coworkers as his playtoys and not face any consequences — he was equally culpable, it takes two-to-tango after all. Did his “talent” or “roles” have implicitly more value than Amelie’s? How is it ethical to dismiss his wrongdoing, and any of the other (Caucasian) females’ while punishing Amelie for hers (similar situations cited)?
I looked up to Amelie. She was the kindest, most helpful person. It was difficult navigating the cliques and rampant favoritism in that office. It was very easy to feel out of place there. She never missed a beat to help out a coworker, to inspire us, to be a friend in an environment that usually resulted with a knife in your back or a bullseye on your forehead at some point, for some reason or another.