To be interesting, be interested”

Abeeha Fatima
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

Who don’t like to be felt important by others? When we console others in grief, remember their birthdays it directly influences them and sparks their interest in us. A single uttered word glowing with kindness, compassion and admiration can win others’ heart .Humanity, loyalty, compassion are the real treasures. “Man is a social animal” we are dependent on others for our needs and wants. For this we need to have sincere friends in life. Around 80 years ago, in “How to win friends and influence people”, popular author Dale Carnegie explored the beneficial tactics of some of history’s greatest people.

Loyalty is the core essence of a relation or being genuinely interested. Dale relates this quality with his pup “Tippy”, he told that he had this divine instinct.

To have sincere friends, we need to be first interested in them.To mystify people, we need to like and regard people with gratitude. Here he gives examples of a writer, Thurston magician, Roosevelt. When we make people feel important “Likability factor” for us automatically increases.

“People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves”

Caring for others is not only needed in winning friends, it is the key skill of selling products and doing business. Many companies train their telephone operators to greet all callers in a tone of voice that radiates interest and enthusiasm. The caller feels the company is concerned about them which in turn develop a sense of loyalty in costumers.

He tells his personal experience at Brooklyn. He and his fellows wrote to busy authors saying that they admired their work and were deeply interested in getting their advice. The authors liked their way and traveled to Brooklyn.

“Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours.”
Dale Carnegie

When I implemented this rule in my life and I experienced many benefits in real sense. I asked my friends, family, cousins, fellows and hotel servants about their well-being, concerns, life problems and their future goals. Talking to and seeking suggestions from my mother is my daily business but this time I asked her about childhood memories. I asked my mentor about her children, her concerns and next year plans. In return she told me key tactics about my future. She gave me a lot of ideas about opening combined ventures with other professionals, entrepreneurship in Nutraceuticals industry etc.

When I asked one of my senior about her future goals, she told me that she was thinking about becoming a CSP officer. I helped her by telling her about some of the online sites like CSS Forum etc. In return, she said I should feel free to contact her regarding any difficulty in making internship. When I discussed my fellows about how their internships, most of them actually offered to exchange the learned material. I’m a hostel-lite, to be very honest we used to call ayahs just to clean our rooms. But this time I inquired her about her well-being and other stuff like that. This thing made her in tears and she gave a lot many prayers of success and prosperity. This all thing made me really happy from inside.

This was all from my personal experience that how influencing others, influence our own lives with positive vibes!

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