searching through grief
At the beginning of my journey through grief, I immediately began looking for articles about death and grief. Originally, I was comforted by posters and links on Facebook — the place where I wrote my first grief post about two weeks after Love died.
Next, I began searching for articles about the Kubler-Ross stages of grief. I learned some details about it that I wasn’t taught in Psych 101. I even shared it with my students, boldly asking them what stage they thought I was in merely 3 days post tragedy.
After nearly seven years of personal experience surrounding loss, I can tell who is going to read, share and comment on…www.huffingtonpost.com
Nothing resonates like the personal stories I have read by many authors here on Medium. There is a category called Grief, and a smaller one, Grief and Loss, that I perused often until I felt like I had read them all.
The initial stages of loss are the hardest to cope with. Here are some tips to help you survive.medium.com
Note: this was written on the Sunday after the Ghost Ship Fire.medium.com
I read about the loss of mothers (Kisha Walker)(Felicia C. Sullivan)(Sashka Rothchild)(Jamie Nesbitt Golden)(Paleo/Primal Ireland)(Annette)(KimBoo York) and fathers (Jonas Ellison)(Andy Romanoff)(walkerjo lee)(Magnus Hambleton)(Jack), babies (Erin Caton) and children — in utero (Hugo Schwyzer) and adults — , grandmothers and grandfathers (R.Tamang)(Malvika), aunts and uncles, cousins (Christopher Carmichael), friends (Buchi Okoro)(Jenna Regan)(Shana Riley)(Nara Kasbergen)(Jill Stauffer)(Angiest In Seattle), and a teacher (Dan Moore), brothers (Tope A)(Maria Gotay)(Jeremy Glass), spouses (Thom Garrett)(Rachie Rach)(Dorian Wanzer)(Slim Pickings), and lovers (Lisa Williams)(Michon Neal). I paid the most attention to the loss of intimate partners. I can feel almost every word…such description makes my own account almost unnecessary.
But still I write. Sometimes it feels obligatory and it stresses me the fuck out. My intention was for it to be therapeutic. And it is.
Much love to all of those who expose their raw emotion (Yehoshua Ventura) for their own healing, so that we all may heal. There is value in feeling like you’re just plain normal (Normal Earthling)(arb)(Joshua Hehe) when you feel such despair.
I think about the clothes you were buried in. I imagine you wore blue, the color of certain seas, because you were…medium.com
After the funeral, I tried free-writing for the first time in my life. In the weeks to follow, reading what I had…thecoffeelicious.com
I now have days where I only think of her once, usually sometime around the middle of the day when I have taken a break…medium.com
Last week, as I finally went though the final contents of my late mother’s belongings, I came across a particularly…medium.com
I need to respect the tears, I need to weep, that’s all there is to it. There’s no short-cut to grief’s end, it just is…medium.com
Note: This post was originally written in 2013, but remains one of the most important and soul-healing pieces I’ve ever…medium.com
How could you have died then? Look at you, young and strong, vital, competent and comfortable. Standing with your…medium.com
What my dad said to me a few weeks before he passedmedium.com
It’s been 56 days since grandfather passed away. It has not been easy. In fact, it has been the darkest period of my…medium.com
Aside from your heart spontaneously combusting, there are a lot of other unpleasant things to do when your baby dies…medium.com
Early next month, had things been very different, my first-born would turn 31.bullshit.ist
I had a dream about my grandfather last night. Or it was this morning because I remember waking up at 3 am because I…medium.com
Death came knocking in my family last week. Thirty-four years old and full of spunk, life, puns, and wisdom, she…medium.com
It began around Thanksgiving. Actually, who am I kidding? It began just after Halloween. Commercials for Holiday sales…amysmartgirls.com
Here’s a picture of Cash, 10 years old, pouring me a glass of champagne before we go cut up the floor with our razor…medium.com
It has been 2 holiday seasons now since we have lost Jayme. 2 Thanksgivings, 2 Christmases, 2 years of not having time…gloriouspublication.com
You’re still receiving messages from friends for whom it took a while to get the news. Over the past weeks, you’ve…thecreative.cafe
After Adam died, I started listening to dubstep. I think my grief registered in a way where the only viable option to…melmagazine.com
Or, a very longwinded way of answering the question, “How are you doing?”medium.com
She’s everywhere I look and nowhere to be found. My beloved has left me, not by her choosing or mine. She has left me…medium.com
I was absent from church for the entire month of December, excluding the day of his memorial. I returned last Sunday. I…blog.dorianwanzer.com