
What stops us from having an orgasmic life?
(Part two of Do You Learn From Your Pleasures? It can decide where you could end up in your life!)
I always heard a local saying since childhood which any kid born in the 90s in India must have memorised, like a poem.
Bada Hua Toh Kya Hua Jaise Pedh Kajoor. Panti ko Chaya nahi Phal Lage Aati Doore [Being Big doesn’t make you a great person. Just like Palm trees in a Desert. Despite being tall, it can’t provide shade or fruits to a weary passerby]
As it turns out they were amongst one of the several hundred couplets, realised pearls of wisdom imparted by weaver Saint Kabir. It took me a decade to realise what this couplet was pointing to. Why a decade you ask? The maxim of 21st century dictates that the words of wisdom of one generation is the common sense of the next. The eureka of electric bulb is taken for granted by kids born in 90s or smartphone users today won’t believe the efforts put by us 90s kids in sending an SMS. Why did it then take me so much time for me to realise this saying? See, here is where you might miss my point! I said realised not understood. Both are sky and earth apart. A point put here to make you realise we understand what we want to understand not know the reality behind a phenomena. Understanding you see, relies on intelligence whereas realisation is the fruitions of experiences rooted in our heart. I realised after a long bout of inner turmoil and depression that having a life isn’t enough, one has to live it fully and not just die but also finally transcend it. All would be cleared below.
The revelation shared here is not about how one must live their life. This is not a self help guide. No, Sir this is not. This is how we mess up our day to day lives everyday. Choosing misery over blissfulness everytime. This story is how we are being duped since we developed a substantial level of cognizance. Why despite being blissful as a kid we become morse as an adult? Why one turns out cranky, obnoxious and orthodox when old age makes a person insipid? Why we forget the key to being blissful as we grow up? Why don’t we have the clarity to achieve what we want when the time comes? Why don’t we turn out how we envision our lives in our dreams?
First, how does one define one’s happiness?
You might say it is doing what we want, anytime we want, without any restrictions. We have been doing just that, haven’t we? Forcing ourselves to obey our parents to study, graduate and do jobs in between day after day just as obstacles in our lives. I really would agree with you, if it had been the old me. This is the exact reason,on the contrary why we turn up so miserable in our lives. Allow me to introduce the vital sutra of Yoga to enlighten your consciousness about real knowledge.
Viparyayah Mithya Jnanam Atad Rupa Pratistham
Yoga Sutra 1.8 Incorrect knowledge or illusion (viparyaya) is false knowledge formed by perceiving a thing as being other than what it really is.
Dropping the first notion about ourselves should be this fact: If a certain thing appears as is, it must be so. This notion has been so deep rooted inside us that we already believe objects we perceive to be as it is. We make notions about any experience, skill, goals, persons,places just as they appear before us. This is the reason when we go after pleasure, we get depression in the end. We run after our goals but we never achieve them. We assume sensory pleasures (intoxicants, titillation, sexual escapades to name a few) are all in all in our life, instead we get various forms of diseases, robbing of life virility and mental anxieties in return. The peaceful blissful state present inside us since childhood is nowhere to be found.The lesson to be learnt here can be easily understood from the parable of blind men and the elephant.
A group of blind men heard that a strange animal, called an elephant, had been brought to the town, but none of them were aware of its shape and form. Out of curiosity, they said: “We must inspect and know it by touch, of which we are capable”. So, they sought it out, and when they found it they groped about it. In the case of the first person, whose hand landed on the trunk, said “This being is like a thick snake”. For another one whose hand reached its ear, it seemed like a kind of fan. As for another person, whose hand was upon its leg, said, the elephant is a pillar like a tree-trunk. The blind man who placed his hand upon its side said, “elephant is a wall”. Another who felt its tail, described it as a rope. The last felt its tusk, stating the elephant is that which is hard, smooth and like a spear. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blind_men_and_an_elephant
The conclusion here is one knows just an iota of the whole picture. We are missing life because we are assuming falsehood as truth and ironically also the vice-versa. Isn’t it obvious we go on missing? You might from here on, want to change your perception about a number of things in your lives. Your thought processes, your efforts, your goals, in short everything. Drop the notion that you know how to go about things before actually experiencing them. This would be the first step in attaining your real innate nature again. This is just the first step on the path of living an orgasmic life. Actually, you might be surprised we often close our eyes from the truth ourselves.
How?
Let’s continue this discussion in the next part of this series.
Till then sayonara from this Lost Mystic!
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