Sexually Liberated... or trying to be.
The topic ‘sex’ is majorly one that triggers hormones in the human body when being discussed. That is why days ago I took to my Instagram, with the aid of question polls, to decipher the reason that this topic is considered obscure. ‘Sexually liberated’ is the term used to describe individuals (mainly women-according to Google) that engage in casual (or pre-marital) sex. They usually have no qualms talking about sex, or engaging in the activity with whomever their hormones direct them towards and according to the Urban Dictionary “often satisfying their sexual needs and desires without the burden of guilt or the judgment of established morally-correct societal mores.”
During my partial research on the gram, there was a dominant notion that struck me; people connote talking about sexual activity to actually engaging in sexual activity. I’d have you know these two things are not the same dogma. Albeit we are in a postmodern society laced with individuality, freedom of expression, intellectual systems and more, there are still some ideologies that people just do not sit well with - sex is one of them.
Being comfortable with talking about sex (the activity) does not allude that the individual comfortable with talking about it or listening to someone else talk about it actually engages in the activity. Conversing about sex is not having sex nor does it mean the person is saying “I want to have sex with you”. One could talk about politics without being a politician, lecture without being a licensed professor, one could give fitness tips without being a licensed fitness trainer…yet. Talking about the act does not diminish ones being nor does it mean the person is stamping on their forehead ‘I have sex daily’.
Some others feel talking about sex is discomforting because one could be platonically talking about genitalia, transfer of energy, the pleasure that comes with it, then boom! The other individual connotes the conversation as a ‘green’ card to have sexual relations with the other individual. No! please be guided.
Conversing about sex is not having sex nor does it mean the person is saying “I want to have sex with you”.
Another misconception some people have about the topic ‘sex’ is the need to talk about personal sexual experiences, which once again is false. One does not have to talk about personal sexual experiences, one can just talk. One could talk about how once upon a time, sexual activity was a means for men (I mean just men because man needed woman) to reach God. I do not know how true this is but according to a book I read by Dan Brown, intercourse was the act through which male and female experienced God. The ancients believed that the male was spiritually incomplete without the sacred feminine. Physical union with the female remained the sole means through which man could become spiritually complete and ultimately achieve ‘gnosis’- knowledge of the divine. Through the bond of man with woman, man could achieve a climatic state when his mind went totally blank and he could see God (orgasm)…it was considered a sacred act. Which could be another reason some people would rather not talk about it; sex is a sacred act that should not be spoken about discretely.
Consequently, everyone needs to understand their personal DNA because we cannot ignore the trends and exposure cultural globalisation is presenting to us. While some people are indifferent about it, conversing casually about sex might hagride others due to past experiences or the individuals socialisation, same notion with casual sex- it really is not for everyone regardless of the promotions we see on mainstream media.
Find your vibration and stick to it.
