Truth and Lies About a Woman’s Body

To my fellow husbands.

Anthony Bisotti
Aug 24, 2017 · 3 min read

This is a lie.

Oh, I’m sure Behati Prinsloo is back to her pre-baby body. That’s probably true.

The lie is that this is a realistic expectation. At least, it’s not in my circle of family and friends.

In fact, it’s an insidious deception that destroys the mental health of mothers. It makes them feel as if they don’t measure up, like they’re failing. It makes them feel worth less because they can’t look the way they did before kids.

Let me tell you the truth.

After having three kids in five years, things are different. Her hips are wider, her bust is bigger, and she’s generally curvier all around.

She will never look like she did before having babies.

That’s the truth.

And I am so on board with that!

I love her new body. I love every line and curve, because it’s a woman’s body. It’s a body that tells the story of making the most difficult sacrifices anyone can ask of the human frame. Her body speaks to me of maturity. This is not something you get unless you’ve made adult decisions.

Fellas, don’t be deceived by those magazines.

That’s not the truth, and if you expect her to chase that, then you’re setting your relationship up for failure.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve reassured my wife that I think she’s sexy. Because women believe that crap about “have a sexy post-baby body in 5 months”, too!

Our culture is sitting here telling our wives and mothers that they need to measure up to a false image of physical appearance.

I know, it’s the same for all women — not just moms. But, when you’re dealing with those post-baby hormones, it takes the whole issue to a whole other level!

Guys, don’t let yourself be fooled. You have to stay grounded in reality and help your wife to see the truth. Everything’s different after kids, including her appearance.

Truth be told, I like the new look better.

Due to some complications of this last pregnancy, her core muscles were stretched and weakened. So, she’s been working out to get stronger. She is getting so strong!

Her shape isn’t changing, and it’s bothering her. I’m here to remind her that she’s a strong and beautiful woman. She still wants me to desire her, and I have to let her know that I still do.

Men, be strong and stay true. Look at your wife’s post-baby body as a journey of discovery. You aren’t going to end up back where you started, so throw that notion out.

Instead, focus on finding the place where she’s happiest, and speak to her of the beauty you see there.


Anthony writes about faith, family and fitness. You can read his blog here.

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Co-creator of the Whole Dad Challenge. Blogs at www.runningfuriously.com

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