The One Thing Every Successful Person Has in Common

Anyone who has tried to hop on a personal, professional or a financial goal is familiar with this voice of the inner critic — the one that says things like “maybe you should think better,” “this is a stupid idea,” or “nothing will ever work out.”. It’s hard to quiet that voice because it speaks truth to some degree. On the other hand, Have you ever admired how someone is always thriving in life? or Have you ever tried to figure out how they might have reached those heights? Usually, we answer this question by looking into the talent of that top dog or we say he/she might have some hidden skills rolled up in the sleeve. But it’s an unfinished candor. There’s more to the story than that.

No successful people will say they succeeded because of their talent. If talent is the only driver of success then ninety percent of the most successful people will go unaccounted. Also, to note, these successful people are not only successful in their field but also they are leading a very happy and healthy life. They also spend a decent amount of time with their families as well. These people portion out some time to take care of their bodies and soul.

According to the most successful and influential people, wellness is not about earning more money or having a great name in society, It’s about how they lead their life and understand the purpose of their life.

After a long studying journey on successful people, I learned that you need to focus on these 5 things:

  1. Physical Health
  2. Soul Health
  3. Mental Health
  4. Relationship Health
  5. Income Health

Yes, you read it right — Income health. But I’ve placed that category latter on the list. I’ll quickly brief you on each of the above.

Physical Health: It’s about your body. To improve physical health, exercise regularly, have a good sleep, Eat Fruits and Vegetables. Physical activity and exercise can have immediate and long-term health benefits. Most importantly, regular activity can improve your quality of life.

Soul Health: One of the most untalked topics(among these five). Most people fail to focus on this. To have true and lasting health, we must tend to our soul’s needs. Everything about our lives and identity is in some way a function of our soul. You can improve by focusing on Joy, Compassion, Peace, creativity, sense of humor. Remember, whatever is happening in the soul affects the physical body.

Mental Health: Mental health includes emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices. To improve your mental health, Focus on one thing, eat a good meal, open up to someone, take a break, tell yourself something positive.

Relationship Health: Taking care of all your people’s connections. Communicate, Be honest, Give each other some space, Agree to disagree, Forgive and Ask for Forgiveness, Support each other. You need to be conscious of how to differentiate and maintain the equilibrium between Family relationships, Friendships, Acquaintanceships, and Romantic relationships.

Income Health: You can call it cash health, money health or whatever. The nub is, Wise spending and a huge saving on what you earn. Have a saving plan, Stick to the budget, pay off the credit card, spend less than you earn, learn to invest.

If you earn a truckload of money and you’re mentally not doing well, that’s a problem. You cannot enjoy your life with that kind of money.

Similarly, If you’re very healthy and bring zero dimes home every day, that’s not gonna help your living. (I just speak what’s on my mind, even if most can’t handle the truth.)

Also, taking care of all these things ain’t a one-time thing. You need to keep it consistent. To balance and focus on all these things while also being consistent, you need to cultivate something called habit management. Habit Management in simple words is doing one thing at a time and doing it repeatedly and regularly. To be consistent at something, you need to have a life skill called Mental Toughness. Mental Toughness is the cornerstone piece of having a great life.

Mental toughness is core to the study of performance psychology, It was initially used to help elite athletes perform better. It emerged as an area of study in the mid-1980s and research continues to this day, developing mental toughness techniques and tactics to train athletes, business people and all performers to produce breakthrough results.

“You don’t have to be born mentally tough. But you can develop this vital trait.”

Mentally tough people stay consistent. They don’t miss workouts. The key to balancing between a happy life and achieving life goals is having a strong mental toughness.

  1. Define what mental toughness means for you
  2. Mental toughness is built through small physical wins
  3. Mental toughness is about habits, not your motivation

Grit, perseverance, and passion can become your defining traits, regardless of the talent, you were born with. You can become more consistent. You can develop superhuman levels of mental toughness.

You might have heard of this proverbial phrase, “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”. Lemons suggest sourness or difficulty in life; making lemonade is turning them into something positive or desirable.

Technically, It takes a few steps to make lemonade out of a lemon. So does your life. You need to go through a series of steps to achieve something. To make this happen you need to have perseverance. To make an exceptional lemonade, you need to be passionate about making lemonades.

Mentally tough leaders are more consistent than their peers. They have a clear goal that they work towards each day. They don’t let short-term profits, negative feedbacks, hectic schedules prevent them from continuing the march towards their vision. They make a habit of building up the people around them. Not just once, but over and over and over again.

How can you improve Mental Toughness?

Tried my best to crunch down into 10 one-liners. Hope this is easy to read and recall.

  1. Start by building your identity
  2. Build your Emotional Stability
  3. See the past as a valuable training
  4. Always be ready for change. Prepare for the challenges.
  5. The right attitude towards setbacks
  6. Focus on small behaviors, not life-changing transformations
  7. Develop a routine that gets you going regardless of how motivated you feel.
  8. Stick to the schedule, forget about the results.
  9. When you slip up, get back on track as quick as possible.
  10. Celebrate other people’s success

“Intelligence is helpful if you want to be successful, but the commitment and mental toughness are mandatory. Keep yourself on track with these valuable habits.”

Humans aren’t robots. We have an agency. And every time you focus on a quick, easy fix without actually thinking, you deny the existence of that agency.

Listen, the world breaks everyone at some point. As I have learned, it doesn’t help to rest on your laurels in the hopes that life will get better. Maybe it will. Maybe not. Get off the autopilot and take control of the wheels. You will always want to procrastinate. But if you have a system and a plan, you can be productive. A cut above, work on creating one thing today — not tomorrow. By repeating this every single day, you’ll thrust out that exceptional level of success. Let’s be a mentally tough and emotionally mature adult.



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