A midlife crisis is a good thing.

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Have you heard of a “gap year” or “sabbatical”? Some college students take a year off between high school and college, or college and the start of their career. Some people take a year off work to go travel the world.

During a family gap year you are uprooting your entire household: your spouse, your kids, your pets. And leaving. For the entire year. Why would you do that? Because you feel as you cannot go on without a break. Not just a vacation break. You need a longer break, a one-year long…

And how it is going to change the world.

“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s time.” — Mark Twain, The Innocents Abroad/Roughing It.

The term “ world schooling” is being used more and more these days. The stories of world schooling families taking gap years to travel the world with kids are not news anymore. When I first came across this term, I instantly felt…

And what I am giving them instead.

Another holiday season is approaching, and flyers filled with toys’ advertisements show up in in the mail: pictures of plastic toys, more pictures of plastic toys, doll catalogs.

I have been a mom for 11 years, and always spent holidays with my American-born children in the US. I did not grow up in a culture so preoccupied with wrapped presents during the holiday season. And at first, I saw nothing wrong with the gift obsession in the US.

For years, I succumbed to the culture of consumerism, and we showered our children with…

While shopping for free-range and grass-fed meat for dinner

I woke up and mentally started to organize my day and mold my four children into it: their breakfast, packed lunches, extracurricular activities, snacks, driving, dinner, and…

Is my life so busy because I have four children? Or is it busy because I am forcing myself to max out every minute out of theirs and mine day?

My children were indoors a lot: in school, at home, in after-school activities.

And this was especially true during winter months.

Yes, my kids would sometimes play in the neighborhood outdoors. And yes, we would get outside as a family.

But just like…

“Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story […] I simply did not let myself become afraid. Fear begets fear. Power begets power. I willed myself to beget power. And it wasn’t long before I actually wasn’t afraid.” Cheryl Strayed, “Wild”.

When you have a child with special needs, especially with behavior challenges, the easiest and safest thing to do is to stay inside the house. And by that, you choose, willingly, to miss out on life outside of your home.

If this is how…

Anastasia Campbell

World schooling mom of four. Fanatic of words and languages. Follow my family gap year blog at http://sunkissedparenting.com

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