For me as a man, not food for thought, but a feast for thought. She’s right — no man owns her sexual responses, esp. her orgasms. And the blessing for men, if we’re not too blind and prideful to see it, is that this takes the self-imposed pressure off us. We don’t have to judge sex, or ourselves, by whether or not a partner orgasms. As Ms. Kruk suggests, sex is too multifaceted — too human — to be reduced to one physical variable. My favorite line (“My orgasm is not your ‘consent’ and it’s not your excuse for ignoring my emotional, spiritual, and intellectual needs.”) opens the door to genuine relationships. It sounds like a rebuke to men, but in truth it’s an invitation to us to see women as women, not as sexual objects or the means by which we validate our masculinity, and to enter with them into fully human, deep relationships. This is a brilliant article, one I’ll think a lot more about, fortunately whether or not I want to.