I saw a friend of mine, get mobbed in Twitter, due to a statement they said that was taken out of context. I felt sad.
When someone contradicts you, they’re in a sense attacking you. Sometimes pretty overtly. Your instinct when attacked is to defend yourself. But like a lot of instincts, this one wasn’t designed for the world we now live in.
It feels so wrong not to defend yourself online, primal instinct dictates that we defend ourselves when attacked. However this primal instinct does not blend well in the world we live in now due to the channel(s) (social media, email) used by those who extremely contradict you.
There’s so much undertones an offensive/contradicting paragraph or tweet can have. You do not know the context of your attacker, because online profiles can only say so much. Compared to a face-to-face conversation, you can communicate faster and have clearer context. With the online world, the complexity of human backgrounds and facial reactions get wiped out, the world views become extreme and devolves into ‘black and white’.
Words typed online that personally attack you (non-chalantly or not) will literally take your life:
- Your emotions will be used up to validate yourself and devalue your attacker(s) so that you feel ‘better’
- Your time and intelligence will also be used up to determine the right response
I’m writing this for myself; just so I remind myself not to take things too personally over the internet.
If something is worth arguing about, valuable enough to affect my personal life, I’ll just take it to a personal channel. The public doesn’t need to know the output of an argument, after all I’m not a government official.