Advise that Could, Quite Literally, Kill

One Size Does Not Fit All — Doctor’s Perspective
When it comes to autoimmune disorders, one size does not fit all. Even our doctors deal with us on a case by case basis:

“This drug works for him, but can she tolerate it?” or “It isn’t doing anything for her at all, even after six months.”

“This drug is superb for joint aches caused by Rheumatoid Arthritis! But your white blood cell count has been flaky from Sjögren’s Syndrome, so we’ll have to stop using it.”

“This is the latest drug that has worked for almost all our patients, but it costs $10,000 and there is no guarantee that it will work for you too.”

It isn’t quite like a cough or a sore throat, where you go to the pharmacy to get the same prescription as everyone else.

One Size Does Not Fit All — Patient’s Perspective
Even patients with the same classification of illness might not understand the full spectrum of their own disorder. For example, there are actually four different types of Lupus, and hundreds of different symptoms.

It might destroy the kidneys of one person, but for someone else with the same disease, his skin might be affected instead. Each of these parties may never understand what it feels like to be in the other person’s shoes, despite being diagnosed with the same disorder — ‘Lupus’.

Personal Pet Peeve
I am sure that almost everyone with a chronic illness has a pet peeve. Mine, hands down, would be health advise given by acquaintances who have no idea who you really are as a person, what you do on a daily basis, or the specifics of your disorders.

They dispense advise for exercise, but are not there beside you in the mornings when you are struggling to sit up in bed. Or maybe you are already doing more exercise than them, despite your pains!

I’ve had many people enthuse about magical beans and seeds, or suggest I go vegan. This can be little tricky when one has APS (antiphospholipid syndrome), a disorder where your blood has a tendency to clot. The blood thinners I take require close monitoring of the foods I eat — variations in my diet could quite literally, increase the risk for blood clots that could kill me (which is what the title of this post meant). I once ate a plateful of quinoa and woke up to a giant bruise covering half my arm.

Who knew that a non-green food would be that dangerous? I discovered that while quinoa in itself does not contain Vitamin K (the vitamin which helps with blood clotting in a normal person but must be controlled in APS), the shell enclosing it contains saponins, which triggers blood thinning instead. Anyway, who knew a plate of organic, healthy stuff wasn’t so good for me.

Coming to Terms with it
These days I am trying to understand the perspective of a healthy person a little more. I put myself in their shoes and ponder, “How could they possibly understand? I can’t blame them for that.”

My psychologist has also played a key role in my journey towards psychological healing for the past year, and presented this issue to me in a different light — while you are not their number one concern, their thoughts are still coming from a good place and their intentions are not malicious.

This thought calms me down, and I smile, nod and meditate on it whenever someone comes along and does just that again. I try to listen — perhaps they actually do have something new that I could consider. If not, I try to let the comments slip off before they permeate the barrier of my mind to trigger anger — or maybe I am just getting older ;)

For More Insight:
1. Visualize the Effects of Lupus on the Body (infographic & article on Healthline): http://goo.gl/f16E94

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