…arning how to negotiate the boundaries of your own body with the boundaries of someone else’s body. At its core, this means that a person has to first uncover their individuality and to live it, and then, it means that they have to develop the courage to go after whatever it is their individuality desires in the present, regardless of the outcome.
… more about that person’s own being and clouded judgments than it does about the body they inhabit. Self-love creates a healthy, cohesive narrative of the past that is both realistic and forgiving. Love is what fuels us with belief, and without self-love, there is no belief.
… then reflected in our behavioral expressions as habits, and this further enforces the self-concept. This is why, often, the voices in our mind that tell us what to do, that criticize us, or that support us sound an awful lot like those of the people who we were either raised by or grew up with.