Incredibly beautiful — you speak truth. I am a trauma and couples therapist and vouch that porn is a symptom of loneliness and disconnect. Our entire culture is in desperate need of tenderness - all humans need this. When men or women are in an environment lacking in this way, their coping skills yield disfunction. Thank you for what you do. And for sharing parts of your story with us. I won’t ever forget the image of you huddled aching in the dirt with your friend holding you. And sharing the reality that life here is so distant and cold to the closeness of the military. What a sad state of affairs. Day after day I talk to people- about half of them have not one person they feel safe to share hard times with. I can’t imagine life from that place. :(
