Loving yourself is an extraordinary act of compassion, dear friend. You wouldn’t tolerate hatred of your friends, you family, your community — anyone else. Call up the strength and courage to love yourself like that. It is as urgent for my subsistence as it is for yours.
…of getting to understand people. I love this line from Jeff Jarvis in his book Geeks Bearing Gifts: “Knowing people as individuals and community — no longer as a mass — will allow us to build better services and new forms of news.”
If our goal becomes building relationships and communities, then we’ll forego the digital sleight of hand and instead provide experiences that make people want to come back, and participate, and do it again because it felt good and it meant something. Because it helped — even if in a tiny way — make the place we live in better.
…d taking advantage of my pain. Instead of using the internet as my therapist, I went to a real one. Instead of letting anonymous commenters tell me what I should do with myself, I listened to one professional with whom I was able to share all sides of the situation — not just the parts I wanted her to hear. As I learned to manage my emotions simply through the fundamental process of understanding them, I cared less and less about documenting the process on the internet. I don’t need to write to know what I’m feeling anymore, which has given me something I didn’t have on Tumblr: a vantage point that offered more of a complete perspective.