My 1st Year in Marriage: 5 Life-changing Lessons

Samuel Ogunjo
Aug 25, 2017 · 2 min read

Lesson 1

Good, bad or ugly, it’s worth it when we go through life to learn and share whatever we’ve gathered; my first year of marriage is a proof of that.

To be factual, my marital life has been a confirmation of all I’ve heard, read, known and witnessed.

I’ll share five lessons for the next five days.

1. Romance Doesn’t Make Sense

From a personal standpoint, almost everything in romance makes no sense and I’ve learned to keep my senses out of them all.

If your spouse complains about your anti-romantic nature, be sure your understanding of romance is questionable. You’re probably using your senses to rubbish their desires.

Wait, why should your wife want you to come rub your hands on her legs when her hands are functioning?

It just doesn’t make any customary sense, right?

But have you ever listened to some foolish jokes and you laughed? You even laughed to some that made no sense and you were happy, right?

Then why would you expect everything about romance to be top notch to your sensuality?

Whenever she said ‘Let us go see a film…’ ‘Let us go on a vacation…’ Let us do this and that, the unromantic part of you would be like “What will I gain by doing all those?”

The truth is, you don’t have to gain anything. In fact, you will lose some money to it while you watch everything unfold.

Ordinarily, you can’t wake up in a day and begin to like partying, picnics and all that if you’ve not been doing them before you got married!

Mind you, whatever you want also might not make any sense to your spouse but they’ll have to do them because they understand how romance works.

Uncle Daddy and Aunt Mummy, you can still start now. Don’t be too rigid like this, I beg.

To the married… Is it healthy? Is it lawful? Will it make your spouse happy? Then do them and you would build a great home in no time!

Remember, romance doesn’t make sense!

To the singles, I need to tell you I struggled getting out of the agelong cocoon of my archaic nature.

The first day I entered a swimming pool was after my wedding. I was 31 years old. Shame on me. (Palms meet face) 🙈🙈🙈.

Hey, don’t be that rigid! Go out with friends. Attend events, invited or not. Have fun and build the life ahead.

You grab? Thanks, if you do.

What do you think?

  • Written by Olalekan Adebumiti

Email: motivatedolalekan@gmail.com

Facebook: facebook.com/lekanadegoke1

Instagram: @Olalekanadebumiti

Read more of his works at www.Loversify.com

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