I Joined The Oldies Group Chat.
They say a beautiful introduction make or mar your story, but this story is more for me than you, so I guess it does not matter whatever my introduction might be. But, I can assure you that this is no motivational piece as I am highly unmotivated myself. Any motivational quote you might see is most likely for me.
Welcome to my 3in1 series titled; Life indeed is a pot of beans. Life is like driving a car at night. Life is an experiment.
Life indeed is a pot of beans.
I must have lost my marbles when I got introduced to the fine and tall Lagos man dripping melanin in 2020 and I was grinning so hard. I should have been weary and heeded the words posited by Damilare Kuku, “Nearly all the men in Lagos are mad’. Sadly, the book was not out by then! How should I have known it would turn into a rat race?
This man in question is no other than Capitalism. I was wooed by Capitalism, jilted by him and up to this day, I still keep chasing after him. I and Capitalism had a fantastic year together, it was all rosy. Alas, it seemed he and life were jolly friends. Corona slid in and I experienced some very lows. But, I had capitalism, nothing could go wrong.
I mean, I felt lucky to work in a remote firm far away in India so I was thankful even if I was not as happy. By December 2020, I was madly in love with capitalism but I had my journal with me for when I had to pull my hair out and scream. Admittedly, the year was not all rosy but I was content.
As OLDIES have to drop words of wisdom, so shall I :
As much as you want to make it big, find little things that makes you genuinely happy. I read somewhere that even when you escape the rat race, it does not change the fact that you are still a rat — the hustle goes on. Be present. Live life and let live.
Paying homage to the hustle culture — understand what drives you. A differentiating factor for successful people is a deep understanding of a why and how. No reasonable person should put in nights and days with no actionable steps. Make plans and stick to it. You cannot wing it all.
Life is like driving a car at night.
Boy, did I have lofty goals in 2021? I was ready to take on the world, but I am happy to announce to you dear reader that the world took me on instead — in pidgin, I saw shege. I enrolled in a Data Science cohort and just when I needed to start building projects, my system got faulty. Nothing discourages you than a faulty system. I was demotivated but I had no idea life was just getting started — Round 1.
In 2020, capitalism was introduced as a fine Lagos man but in 2021, life dealt me some curveballs and I became a driver plying the road late at night. (Woe to capitalism!).
In the first half, life was a breeze. I believed life and I had a strong bond. Was I in for a treat? By the second half, I was fighting for my life and wondered how everything became uncertain. I believe myself to be very relentless but this particular rejection (out of many) did me crazy. Enjoy — Round 2:
In the last quarter of 2021, I came across across a Web 3 startup and I fell in love with the product. I sent an email to the founder about my interest, listed some of my achievements and how I can scale the startup. I had the interview and all went well. I was told to wait few weeks for an offer letter. At that same time, I had an offer with another startup but I rejected the interview. Long story short, I was rejected by the Web 3 startup. God, was I devastated? I shed snotty tears but I moved on like the big girl that I am.
Words of a sage:
* Life can throw you lemons but without a fruit press, you ain’t making any damn lemonades. Life cannot be all rosy. Life throws you curveballs. And I guess, it is alright if you do not have life all figured out. With life, dear reader you can never be too sure.
* Obviously, you should learn from my story above. Never reject an interview until you receive an offer letter. It pays to always look out for yourself.
* Just Start: you can not afford to wait to have everything figured out before you take neccesary steps. Take that course, shoot that shot (they can only air you), learn that skill, even send that risky DM.
* Walk life with a healthy community of people
It’s like driving a car at night. You never see further than your headlights, but you can make the whole trip that way.
Life is an experiment.
January 16 [11:59 pm]— While reminiscing how I could land in jail in a country such as Japan as I was now an adult; I heard a notification from my phone, upon opening it was an official invitation from a senior member of the Oldies GC to join the group’s WhatsApp platform.
The invitation brought back memories. How did I become this beaker for experiments? It scares me how things I could have sworn were for me are no longer what I think I would enjoy doing full-time anymore. Crazy how I was doing time with hypotheses like a jail term but lol, it is growth.
Lessons from an oldie:
At one point, you enjoy doing CAC while dabbling in KPK but along the line, you fall in love with 234. With life, you have to be ready to learn, unlearn and relearn. Life is never straightforward.
Explore things that align with your interests. You have no business exploring coding if it is something you have no interest in. Are you a technical person? Are you more of a creative? Do you enjoy public speaking?
Best known beats best: if no one knows what you do, how then can they hire you or buy what you sell? Best advice; put yourself out there. If you are learning a skill, put the process out. If you are enrolled in a cohort, share that journey. If you are working a job, share your experiences, achievements and lessons.
Finally, I am in a state where I am utterly confused and demotivated, I have no idea when I will be getting out of this rut but we will see. This picture here says; “You are a work in progress” and I am trying to believe it so bad. Maybe you should too. I guess we have nothing to lose if we do and a lot to lose if we do not. Yeah, let’s end it here. Peace. ✌🏽