The much harder part of “talking” is the other person asking why we feel this way. Do you agree with me? Read along.

Oftentimes, people find it hard to “open up” because a part of us knows that the solution to our despair lies somewhere behind that “why” but we are afraid they’d trivialize our pain or gain access to the secret chamber of insecurities we’ve sworn not to ever open; not to ourselves, not to anyone. More, we fear a day would come when they’d use that knowledge against us.

One solid fact can be drawn from this: when we are in despair, we need to know for ourselves how much we contribute to the pain. That’ll help us be truly honest and resolute about wanting out and see to it that things get better.

Most people tend towards rationalizing their pain, out of fear of disclosing their insecurities. Why not? After all, that’s the easy way out.

The only problem with this is that; they become bitter as a result, that bitterness darkens their hearts and they become so toxic that they really cannot be happy on their own. Not without constant validation.

Worse, they’ll soon come to hate those around them who handle their issues better, i.e., those who just want to be happy no matter what.

What distinguishes people in the latter group from the former is that “no matter what”. They prioritize mental health over their ego; so what if they think I’m a cry-baby? so what if one or two person thinks I am blowing things out of proportion? The fact is, only I truly know how I feel and I am more focused on feeling better than I am on what you think. So, sh…shove it!

Now, be honest; how much do you contribute to your despair and how much of your pain are you a catalyst for?



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