Negativity
I don’t have time for it and you shouldn’t either. Negativity is the reason why you’re unhappy all the time, stop letting it control you. I want to talk about 2 types of negativity, self negativity and negativity from others around you.
I don’t mean to sound like some all positive hippy type person bc I’m far from that but acknowledging your own negative thoughts is how you can overcome it. Since I came to this epiphany, I think I’ve only been in like a negative mood like once and I couldn’t remember the previous time before that. Obviously you’re human and you do feel different types of emotions however you can learn how to control the negative ones (which are self inflicted if they last longer than 12 minutes btw)
Laughter is the most important thing here. The way in which I maintain a positive/good mood is through watching lots of comedies and finding things funny in whatever situation I am in. Loads of times I find myself bursting out laughing bc I’ve remembered something one of these man said, a funny tweet I saw, a scene in a comedy show, SELF ENTERTAIN etc etc. Find things that you find funny and keep a recollection of them for when you can sense your mood shifting. Try doing/saying things that make you laugh. Basically, the brain is naturally wired to be negatively biased, so the more you’re in your head, the more negative you will feel as that’s what it is programmed to react more strongly to so you feel it more.
It takes more brain power to be negative and to find negativity in everything than it does to be positive. Like I said, a lot of the negativity is self-inflicted. Which brings me onto my next point..
STOP SELF-INFLICTING NEGATIVITY
Obviously you’ll never be truly happy with every aspect of yourself but why would you focus on what you can’t change? It makes no sense so just accept it, it can’t be used against you, if you use it for you. Also negativity is stopping you from doing what you want bc you’re like nah.. I could never do that - most of the time without trying. You cannot grow/improve within your comfort zone, get out of it sometimes. Again that makes zero sense to reject yourself, no one will believe in you if you don’t believe in yourself first. I constantly remind myself of stuff like “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take” you can apply this theory into everything in life really. Apply for that job you don’t think you’d get, talk to that girl/guy you want.. idk what you people don’t do but do it. It’s worth a try. you never know what could happen so try init, you owe it to yourself. Bill Beteet is always highlighting how the odds of you even being alive is so small that you actually being alive is reason enough for you to be loving of yourself. You’re the sperm who made it, it’s so rare, the chances of you being alive is almost impossible so be grateful and make use of it.
Think of it this way, the pain of your regret is worse than the pain of you potentially failing. I try to ever regret things I’ve said/done bc I thought it was right at the time, I can think of better ways to do it next time but I don’t regret it -what’s the point?
Now let’s talk about those toxic, negative people around you. Most of the time they’re your ‘friends’ and family. The thing is, one time a friend of mine once told me I was the negative one in the group and I was like rah.. It was years ago but it’s stuck with me since. He probably doesn’t remember this, wasteman lool. I’ve heard stories of people who’ve been mocked by their closest friends for trying to improve something about themselves, I was like wtf how you still friends with these people? Why would you want negativity like that anywhere near you? What does that achieve? It’s not bad enough we’re socially conditioned to be living within the lines of people’s expectations and limits they give us — don’t do this, don’t say this, don’t believe in yourself. Imagine having that negativity within your chosen friendship circle, you can’t escape it, that’s depressing as hell.
Don’t get me wrong, you need people to keep you in check, you need friends who’ll tell you when you need to improve etc but that’s constructive criticism which is good and expected from them. If someone is constantly telling you “No”, “You can’t”, “Don’t bother” you have to question if this person really wants the best for you bc it’s mad how often they don’t. So cut them out.
I try to spread value when I can. I give random people credit when it’s due. Don’t be afraid to compliment people on whatever you admire about them, you make their day and you also feel good about yourself, it’s a win win.
I don’t feel comfortable around negative people/negative talk anymore, I don’t give them the time of day, their negativity is a disease and if you’re not careful it will consume you. Do not let it, you’re depressing yourself. Stop it. If you want to continue doing so, stay away from me, asante x
