How adulthood finally dawns on you…

You know how all your life you’ve been waiting to become an adult, to drive your dad’s coveted car or wear your mom’s stiletto heels. In India, one attains official adulthood at the age of 18 years, but real adulthood actually dawns on you only when you are through with your carefree days of college.

A recent graduate, I couldn’t relate to the maturity and the general feeling of being an adult even three whole years after legally turning 18. However, the realization of finally becoming an adult dawned on me when I noticed the following changes in my life patterns.

You know you have finally achieved adulthood when-

THE NEGATIVES

  1. Your eyes refuse to stay open beyond 11 in the night.
  2. In case somehow you do happen to stay awake beyond 11, you doze off without realizing it.
  3. You wake up, later in the night, only to realize that your internet service provider has charged exorbitant charges for some surreptitious downloads you did in your sleep.
  4. Your mornings start off with you switching off your alarm, only to discover that lazing around in bed won’t help anymore, and therefore having to reluctantly shake off the remaining sleep.
  5. Your body aches in joints and nooks and crannies you never knew existed, for reasons better known to mankind.
  6. You are stuck between a never-ending struggle to finish work, catch up on your sleep or socialize. To exemplify-
    “Ah! Well! Today’s a holiday! Let me watch a movie, read up on some novels and catch up with friends!” And by noon, you are caught with your mouth open, dozing off on your dining room couch.
  7. Your seemingly stressful college and school days now seem like the doorways to paradise whose importance you never realized. You desperately cling on to those memories, eking out every fibre of happiness you could possibly get from recounting the tales one last time. *sob, sniff, sob*
  8. You realize that somewhere, somehow, you are not the best at everything you thought you were “talented” at, or so you were convinced during school and college life. There are people out there with way more extensive general knowledge, greater self-confidence and a much higher degree of passion and abilities. Ah, well, who cares, I’m awesome!
  9. You can’t run away from household chores anymore, as their nagging presence is felt all the more. Especially so, since you are directly affected by their completion. Example- 
    “When the ironed clothes aren’t available when you need them for an evening out…”
  10. Your sundry family members never cease to remind you of the fact that you’re an adult now and you ought to act much more responsible. Especially so for your career and future.
“Don’t you find it odd,” she continued, “that when you’re a kid, everyone, all the world, encourages you to follow your dreams. But when you’re older, somehow they act offended if you even try.” 
Ethan Hawke, The Hottest State

THE POSITIVES

  1. You don’t really mind when your best-friend doesn’t return your call, or cancels out a meetup at the very last minute. Adulthood entails your entire peer group being extremely caught up in lots of things, and this has started to dawn on you as group plans are now a thing of the distant past.
“Being an adult means accepting those situations where no action is possible.” 
John D. MacDonald, The Green Ripper

2. You get to spend every free moment of your life with extreme precariousness, cherishing each such second from the very core of your being.

3. You don’t even mind when you have an entire day at home to yourself, spending time with your family members and simply enjoying doing nothing in specific.

4. You start to get closer to God, understanding the simplicities of spirituality and worship and rediscover the meaning of religion for yourself.

5. Your little joys and favorite pastimes such as cooking, baking, reading, listening to music and playing with your pets seem to be the stars of the day.


To conclude, adulthood is a journey I’ve just started to embark upon. Currently, the positives seem to be outweighed by the negatives, but who knows? Maybe someday I’ll be re-writing this article to praise adults and their tedious, yet enjoyable lives.

However, dear readers, I would still suggest all of you to NOT follow the four stages of adulthood, as illustrated below.

Live your life, and love your life! ❤

PS- Honest feedback would be duly appreciated on my first article on medium.

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