The philosophy of love, life and everything.
I was talking to a close friend of mine who recently went through a bad breakup. During the conversation, she showed me an image which I am sharing below:
This image intriguing to me. I am up at 4:30 am typing this so that bit is evident. How can we let that “one” person define what is love is beyond my understanding. But it seems like that is the case. Love is usually defined by the most prominent person in our lives, but not by us. Lucky few get to spend their entire (or a significant part of) life with someone who defined that love for them. Others tend to roam around the planet trying to find the image of that defining entity in others. Matt Damon goes to other planets.
Now consider this, we still don’t know if we have met that person who will ultimately decide “love” for us. We only know the definition till now. That can change in future. Few years ago, one of my friend told me that if you can find someone who helps you in achieving your dreams, who you can look up to when you need inspiration, then that person is worth spending your life with. Over last few years, I lost touch with that friend but this statement remained in my head. Probably this statement defines love more accurately, not the bollywood masala that Shahrukh, Kajol and Karan Johar sold us.
We spend a significant chunk of out lives to figure out love, find out love. We spend so much time in that that we forget that we have a life. Life consists of family, friends, work and most importantly, it consist of you. So how about being the person who stops worrying about the definition of love and love the life, making it better. Let us change the ultimate goal. Let the goal be happiness and not love. And Dumbledore once said the following:
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Let us be happy. Love and live the life. Rest would follow.